Action - The Critical Ingredient For Achieving Anything in Life
By Joi Sigers
Action. What do you think of when you hear or read the word action?
If you're like my husband, you probably think of action movies - James Bond, Batman, Jason Bourne and Max Payne may all spring to mind.
As someone who collects motivational quotes and does a great deal of "Self Help" writing, however, the first think in my mind when I hear or read the word action is a great quote by the great John F. Kennedy. "Things do not happen; things are made to happen." I also think of another word... vital.
One of the things that perplexes me most in the whole world is the number of people who have skill, talent, and good old-fashioned "know how," yet never seem to get out of the batter's box. They have the talent to carry them to first, second, and third base and the skill to carry them home. But, frustratingly enough, they stay in one place watching the game go on without them. They watch others run the bases and think, "I could do that." Some are even certain that they could do it better. Yet, there they stand - as though their shoes were nailed to the ground.
It's something that puzzles me so much that I've actually spent hours thinking about it. I simply know far too many people who should be... who could be... setting the world on fire in their prospective fields. They're built to be stars, not spectators! Which is why I've tried so hard to get my mind around the mystery of people who can but won't.
I've decided that there are three groups of people who fall into this category.
1. There's the group who are afraid to fail. I know a few who are perfect examples of this one. They have so much pride in their reputation and in their "name" that they're frozen with fear. They seem to think that if they try something new and "fail," people will think less of them and/or their peers will laugh at them. 2. Others are too comfortable to make a move. A lot of people stand still for one reason, alone. Taking a step out of their comfort zone would require more energy than they're willing to part with. 3. The rest simply don't know to take that first step. I think that, probably, more people fall into this group than the other two.
Possible Solutions:
Of course just knowing the problem areas doesn't really solve anything, does it? We actually have to figure out ways to move from here to there.
Let's take each and see if we can come up with any steps that'll lead in a better direction.
First of all, the group who is afraid to fail. I can understand this one, actually. The fear of being looked at as unsuccessful isn't very appealing. But a lot of it comes down to the individual's own attitude. When someone tries something and isn't successful, the way they're perceived by others is often dictated by their own attitude. For example, if they start pointing fingers or madly making excuses, they're not going to come off so well. But if they stay positive and acknowledge the experience as a learning curve, people will be able to relate to them - and even respect them.
Second of all, the people who are too comfortable to be moved. While I can relate to the first group, I can't even begin to relate to this group. I just can't imagine not ever wanting better, not from life - but from yourself. I'm all about pushing myself as far as I can, just to see what I can learn to do. Granted, I find plenty of things I can't even come close to doing (more things than I care to admit, actually!) but I also find things that I somehow manage to learn. Sometimes having a hard head can serve a person well. When their head is hard enough and their will strong enough, they stay in the fight until they've licked whatever it is they're up against.
I think that may be where the solution lies for our comfort-seeking friends. They have to light a fire under themselves and determine to push themselves further and demand more from themselves. They have to realize that if they never move and never grow - they'll become as stagnant as well water,
Third of all, we have the group who simply don't know HOW to take that first step. Some simply give up, while others do so much research that their to do list never gets done. It simply gets covered up with research!
Don't get me wrong, researching information is a glorious thing. I'm turned on by research almost as much as I am by the Starbucks logo. I spend hours each day researching someone, someplace, and or something. But when reading about things takes the place of doing things, it's time to re-evaluate where you are and where you're NOT going..
One of the best pieces of advice I can offer to someone who falls into group 3 is this: Find someone who has done what you're desiring to do and ask them the following question, "What were your first three steps?" Most people are, at heart, extremely helpful - especially when you're interested in them. If they've accomplished something you want to accomplish, they'll be extremely flattered by the situation. So much so that you're certain to get 3 very detailed "first steps."
Finally, I just want to give one small example of a sure fire approach. When I was a little girl, I played in a softball league. I was the youngest and smallest on the team, so they figured the safest spot for me was behind the plate - as the catcher. They felt that if the "runt" was behind the plate, she wouldn't get into any trouble. The problem was, I wanted desperately to be the pitcher. However, the coach had a pitcher he was pretty partial to: His daughter! Plus, he kept telling me that I was so "tiny" that I'd be better off covered with the catcher's equipment (which I hated with a passion!).
When August came, something happened between the coach and his wife. They ended up going their separate ways, and his daughter left with the mother. At our next practice, the coach asked us, "Who knows how to pitch?" I said, "I can pitch." Never mind the fact I'd never pitched before... details, details.
So, he walked me to the pitching rubber, gave me a ball, and he, himself, assumed the catcher's position. I remember seeing my mom in the stands looking at me like, "What in the world are you doing there, you've never pitched before?!" I smiled at her and then just did my best.
I through 5 or so pitches before he announced to everyone, "We have a pitcher."
I never had to go behind the plate again. I was 8 that summer and continued to pitch for 10 more years, throughout my softball career.
Sometimes, you just simply have to jump in with both feet (and arms). You never know what you can do until you put yourself in the position to sink or swim.... fly or fall.... pitch or catch.
Nolan Bushell put it like this, "The critical ingredient is getting off your butt and doing something. It's as simple as that. A lot of people have ideas, but there are few who decide to do something about them now. Not tomorrow. Not next week. But today."
As someone once said, "Self isn't something one finds, it's something one creates." Self Help Daily would love to help YOU create a masterpiece!
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Thursday, December 11, 2008
Monday, December 01, 2008
CHANGE IS GOOD......ITS ALL ABOUT YOUR ATTITUDE
10 Ways to Deal With Negative Thinking, Panic and Paralyzing Fears
By Peter Murphy
I recently heard from a friend who had been laid off at the newspaper she worked at because of the faltering economy. She didn't have many job leads and her motivation was at an all-time low. She felt that there was nothing more frightening than being a writer in an uncertain job market.
Panic and fear quickly took over; where would she go from go from there?
How would she pay her bills?
How would she cope with uncertainty?
Her mind was plagued with self-doubting, self-defeating thoughts and she began to spiral out of control, right into a dangerous state of anxiety that threatened to paralyze her into stagnant ground forever.
As she began to realize what a toll her predicament was leaving her in, it became clear to her that she needed to take action and do something to get herself out of the hole she was in.
Once she sat down and began to reflect on things, working through the paralyzing fear and the negativity that came along with the devastation of losing her dream job and having to start over from the beginning, everything started to make sense and she was on a roll!
Sometimes it takes a moment of crisis to help us refocus our thoughts and energies into what we want our professional and personal goals to be and what we need to accomplish.
The following points will help you focus and concentrate on the positive rather than dwell on the negative, motivating you to move forward into action rather than leaving you stuck in a rut.
Reading through them should help you gain some perspective into your particular situation:
1. Allow yourself to be upset and grieve if things have gone wrong
Sometimes you suffer from start-up inertia because you're having to make a new start and you're stubbornly holding on to the way things were.
It is perfectly normal to feel panicked, upset, angry, sad, even outraged; you wouldn't be human if you didn't feel that way.
Take some time to get in touch with those feelings.
The night my friend got laid off she drove home, fell into bed and literally could not move for 45 minutes.
Then she called me.
I got her to get up, take a long shower, change into some comfortable clothes, and then she spent some time sat in front of the television watching 'Friends'.
Give your mind and body time to settle into the initial shock of change, whatever it may be.focus primarily on how you feel and let those feelings out.
2. Take a DEEP BREATH!
Your mind deserves it, your body deserves it, your lungs deserve it.
Taking deep breaths improves circulation, calms anxiety and helps you focus.
Once you're done moping, take a deep breath and start to move.
3. Organize your home, organize your life
Is your house a mess? What about your room or your home office? Can you not see yourself going through the piles of papers on top of your desk? Have you looked at your bills lately and seen what you have?
If you haven't done any of these things, now is the time to do it.
There is nothing more stressful when we are in a state of panic than a living space that has no room for us to live in it.
So tackle the mess; wash those clothes, clean out that pantry, throw out the clutter, get those bills out of the way.
You'll be surprised how much more motivated you will be when you surround yourself with cleanliness and order.
4. Surround yourself with positive people
Now would be a good time to reconnect with friends that you haven't spoken to in a while, or even with the friends that you talked to just yesterday, those friends that always have an encouraging word, who are helpful and positive.
Do yourself a favor and avoid people who are always down in the dumps, or who always have something negative to say.
However:
5. Don't confuse negativity with constructive criticism
Some friends may seem like they're helping but they're just feeding the cynicism. Conversely, friends that may appear to be negative are actually offering ways to help by sharing your experiences and showing you a better way to focus.
Listen to the people that are there for you, take what you can use, and dismiss those things that you don't want to use or that you can't use. Don't allow yourself to be brought down by it.
Take charge of your life again.
6. Have someone objective to talk to
When possible, sometimes having an objective third party to talk to and run ideas by can be tremendously helpful.
In some cases, a therapist can be of vital importance in your growth process towards finding yourself and focusing on your career and life goals. They can provide you with a perspective that is sound, rational and unbiased, while still keeping your best interests in mind.
7. Keep a journal of your progress
Write your ideas and your thoughts down and read over them the day after. You will gain some valuable perspective and insight into your own growth and where you are at.
8. Get out of the house!
Take your laptop or notebook to the local coffee shop or park, somewhere with some interaction and get out into the world! This will give you a chance to get out of the house and possibly meet some people, network and create some opportunities towards accomplishing your goals.
9. Actively look for opportunities to do the things that you love most and turn them into opportunities for you
Do you enjoy attending art shows? Love doing volunteer work? Do you like fishing with friends or going to the library or attending meetings for local organizations?
These are all things that would not only satisfy the craving for you to do something that you enjoy, but it would also present you with opportunities to network, meet people that could help you get ahead, and spend time taking care of yourself and your mental and emotional health.
10. Finally, SMILE and BELIEVE!
Easier said than done, I know. Believe me, nothing about my friend's situation warranted a smile and some faith. But had she not kept herself smiling, it would have been so much harder to be positive and pull out of that state of anxiety.
Believe in yourself and the things that you have accomplished and remember that you are capable of achieving anything you set your mind to do.
So get your coat, get your shoes, get your smile and go out into the world!
Taking heed of these valuable insights will help you create and maintain a positive energy source in your life and keep inertia at bay. You will feel better, be more motivated and definitely more at peace.
All it takes is for you to make that first move. Don't let panic paralyze you into inertia. Anything is possible; it's up to you to make it happen!
Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently produced a very popular free report that reveals how to crush procrastination and sustain lasting motivation. Apply now because it is available for a limited time only at: stay motivated
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By Peter Murphy
I recently heard from a friend who had been laid off at the newspaper she worked at because of the faltering economy. She didn't have many job leads and her motivation was at an all-time low. She felt that there was nothing more frightening than being a writer in an uncertain job market.
Panic and fear quickly took over; where would she go from go from there?
How would she pay her bills?
How would she cope with uncertainty?
Her mind was plagued with self-doubting, self-defeating thoughts and she began to spiral out of control, right into a dangerous state of anxiety that threatened to paralyze her into stagnant ground forever.
As she began to realize what a toll her predicament was leaving her in, it became clear to her that she needed to take action and do something to get herself out of the hole she was in.
Once she sat down and began to reflect on things, working through the paralyzing fear and the negativity that came along with the devastation of losing her dream job and having to start over from the beginning, everything started to make sense and she was on a roll!
Sometimes it takes a moment of crisis to help us refocus our thoughts and energies into what we want our professional and personal goals to be and what we need to accomplish.
The following points will help you focus and concentrate on the positive rather than dwell on the negative, motivating you to move forward into action rather than leaving you stuck in a rut.
Reading through them should help you gain some perspective into your particular situation:
1. Allow yourself to be upset and grieve if things have gone wrong
Sometimes you suffer from start-up inertia because you're having to make a new start and you're stubbornly holding on to the way things were.
It is perfectly normal to feel panicked, upset, angry, sad, even outraged; you wouldn't be human if you didn't feel that way.
Take some time to get in touch with those feelings.
The night my friend got laid off she drove home, fell into bed and literally could not move for 45 minutes.
Then she called me.
I got her to get up, take a long shower, change into some comfortable clothes, and then she spent some time sat in front of the television watching 'Friends'.
Give your mind and body time to settle into the initial shock of change, whatever it may be.focus primarily on how you feel and let those feelings out.
2. Take a DEEP BREATH!
Your mind deserves it, your body deserves it, your lungs deserve it.
Taking deep breaths improves circulation, calms anxiety and helps you focus.
Once you're done moping, take a deep breath and start to move.
3. Organize your home, organize your life
Is your house a mess? What about your room or your home office? Can you not see yourself going through the piles of papers on top of your desk? Have you looked at your bills lately and seen what you have?
If you haven't done any of these things, now is the time to do it.
There is nothing more stressful when we are in a state of panic than a living space that has no room for us to live in it.
So tackle the mess; wash those clothes, clean out that pantry, throw out the clutter, get those bills out of the way.
You'll be surprised how much more motivated you will be when you surround yourself with cleanliness and order.
4. Surround yourself with positive people
Now would be a good time to reconnect with friends that you haven't spoken to in a while, or even with the friends that you talked to just yesterday, those friends that always have an encouraging word, who are helpful and positive.
Do yourself a favor and avoid people who are always down in the dumps, or who always have something negative to say.
However:
5. Don't confuse negativity with constructive criticism
Some friends may seem like they're helping but they're just feeding the cynicism. Conversely, friends that may appear to be negative are actually offering ways to help by sharing your experiences and showing you a better way to focus.
Listen to the people that are there for you, take what you can use, and dismiss those things that you don't want to use or that you can't use. Don't allow yourself to be brought down by it.
Take charge of your life again.
6. Have someone objective to talk to
When possible, sometimes having an objective third party to talk to and run ideas by can be tremendously helpful.
In some cases, a therapist can be of vital importance in your growth process towards finding yourself and focusing on your career and life goals. They can provide you with a perspective that is sound, rational and unbiased, while still keeping your best interests in mind.
7. Keep a journal of your progress
Write your ideas and your thoughts down and read over them the day after. You will gain some valuable perspective and insight into your own growth and where you are at.
8. Get out of the house!
Take your laptop or notebook to the local coffee shop or park, somewhere with some interaction and get out into the world! This will give you a chance to get out of the house and possibly meet some people, network and create some opportunities towards accomplishing your goals.
9. Actively look for opportunities to do the things that you love most and turn them into opportunities for you
Do you enjoy attending art shows? Love doing volunteer work? Do you like fishing with friends or going to the library or attending meetings for local organizations?
These are all things that would not only satisfy the craving for you to do something that you enjoy, but it would also present you with opportunities to network, meet people that could help you get ahead, and spend time taking care of yourself and your mental and emotional health.
10. Finally, SMILE and BELIEVE!
Easier said than done, I know. Believe me, nothing about my friend's situation warranted a smile and some faith. But had she not kept herself smiling, it would have been so much harder to be positive and pull out of that state of anxiety.
Believe in yourself and the things that you have accomplished and remember that you are capable of achieving anything you set your mind to do.
So get your coat, get your shoes, get your smile and go out into the world!
Taking heed of these valuable insights will help you create and maintain a positive energy source in your life and keep inertia at bay. You will feel better, be more motivated and definitely more at peace.
All it takes is for you to make that first move. Don't let panic paralyze you into inertia. Anything is possible; it's up to you to make it happen!
Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently produced a very popular free report that reveals how to crush procrastination and sustain lasting motivation. Apply now because it is available for a limited time only at: stay motivated
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Sunday, November 23, 2008
CHANGE IS GOOD......SOME ADVICE
Ten Rules to Success
By Ole Alouni
In her book If Success Is a Game, These Are the Rules, New York Times bestselling author, Cherie Carter-Scott, presents ten rules for a fulfilling, meaningful, and satisfying life. These rules are easy to follow, practical, and, most of all, do not require you to have a million dollar in the bank to start. So, with this short introduction out of the way, here are the ten rules for a fulfilling life.
Rule # 1: Each Person Has His Own Definition of Success
I like this idea. I don’t have to be a Donald Trump or an Oprah Winfrey to claim success. Cherrie Carter-Scott believes that the “true essence of success, beneath the visible markers and goals, lies in your own personal sense of satisfaction and fulfillment.”
Rule # 2: Wanting Success Is the First Step Toward Attaining It
Success begins with a dream. It is conceive in one’s desire. This desire then turns into an unbending intention that perseveres in the face of insurmountable odds.
Rule # 3: Self-Trust is Essential
“Self-trust is needed not only to guide you to your authentic path; it is needed to keep you there when the road gets bumpy. It is needed when inner doubts arise along the way, when others think you are “crazy” for wanting what you want or doing what you do, when you want to make tough choices, and when you encounter trials and obstacles.”
Rule # 4: Goals Are the Stepping-Stones on Your Path
What’s the difference between visions and goals? Visions are general, broad, and long-term oriented that form as the framework for someone’s goals. Goals are objectives that are specific and measurable.
To distinguish between a vision and a goal, Cherie Carte-Scott uses several examples in her book. One of these examples is the vision of getting in shape. To weigh 175 pounds, be firm and fit by June 15 is the goal.
Rule # 5: Your Actions Affect Your Outcomes
To reap, one must plant. Our world revolves around the principle of cause and effect, action and reaction, stimulus and response, planting and reaping, etc. Both are mutually dependent upon each other.
Success and happiness are not coincidences. Rather, they are products of design and great effort. A person’s thoughts influence his actions. A person’s actions are formed into his habits. A person’s habits are fashioned into his character. And a person’s character determines his fate and destiny.
Rule # 6: Opportunities Will Be Presented
Opportunities are forks in one’s path. How we choose them determines, to a greater extent, our failure or success. Everyday, each one of us on this planet is presented with an opportunity. We must choose wisely, act fearlessly, and pursue each opportunity valiantly.
Rule # 7: Each Setback Provides Valuable Lessons
“The wise learns from his mistakes,” so says an old proverb. Life is not a bed of roses. As one pursues success, wealth, and fame, setbacks are inevitable. Setbacks are not bad; they are good. Setbacks allow us to reexamine our mode of operation, thus, helping us to improve it, and making us better persons in the process.
Rule # 8: Managing Your Resources Maximizes Your Efforts
Everyone is a steward, a manager, a caretaker. In terms of time, each one is given exactly 24 hours per day to manage. In terms of abilities, each one is given a certain ability to improve upon, and multiply. In terms of resources, the world is an open opportunity to be explored.
What’s the difference between those who succeeded and those who failed? Management! Success does not entail being born with a silver spoon in the mouth; although having a silver spoon is an advantage. Majority of successful people were not born with silver spoons. With their meager resources, they managed to multiply it by discipline and hard work.
Rule # 9: Every Level of Success Brings New Challenges
Rule # 9 reminds me our graduation exercises speaker twenty years ago when he said, “every commencement ceremony is the closing of one door and the opening of another with its new set of opportunity, frustration, and challenges.”
Looking back twenty years, I can undoubtedly say that the man was right on the money. Whether poor or rich, there is an inherent challenge that comes with it.
Rule # 10:
Success Is a Process That Never Ends
I thought I am done; I am not. If there is one thing that needs to be recycled more often, success must take pre-imminence. Not only because success begets success, but because success feels good. It becomes addictive, which, by the way, is a good addiction.
In success, the sky is the limit. So dream it. Work on it with unbending zeal. Seize every opportunity. Learn from your mistakes. Trust yourself. And savor every bit of it along the way.
To read Ole Alouni's other articles, please visit www.living-insights.com
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By Ole Alouni
In her book If Success Is a Game, These Are the Rules, New York Times bestselling author, Cherie Carter-Scott, presents ten rules for a fulfilling, meaningful, and satisfying life. These rules are easy to follow, practical, and, most of all, do not require you to have a million dollar in the bank to start. So, with this short introduction out of the way, here are the ten rules for a fulfilling life.
Rule # 1: Each Person Has His Own Definition of Success
I like this idea. I don’t have to be a Donald Trump or an Oprah Winfrey to claim success. Cherrie Carter-Scott believes that the “true essence of success, beneath the visible markers and goals, lies in your own personal sense of satisfaction and fulfillment.”
Rule # 2: Wanting Success Is the First Step Toward Attaining It
Success begins with a dream. It is conceive in one’s desire. This desire then turns into an unbending intention that perseveres in the face of insurmountable odds.
Rule # 3: Self-Trust is Essential
“Self-trust is needed not only to guide you to your authentic path; it is needed to keep you there when the road gets bumpy. It is needed when inner doubts arise along the way, when others think you are “crazy” for wanting what you want or doing what you do, when you want to make tough choices, and when you encounter trials and obstacles.”
Rule # 4: Goals Are the Stepping-Stones on Your Path
What’s the difference between visions and goals? Visions are general, broad, and long-term oriented that form as the framework for someone’s goals. Goals are objectives that are specific and measurable.
To distinguish between a vision and a goal, Cherie Carte-Scott uses several examples in her book. One of these examples is the vision of getting in shape. To weigh 175 pounds, be firm and fit by June 15 is the goal.
Rule # 5: Your Actions Affect Your Outcomes
To reap, one must plant. Our world revolves around the principle of cause and effect, action and reaction, stimulus and response, planting and reaping, etc. Both are mutually dependent upon each other.
Success and happiness are not coincidences. Rather, they are products of design and great effort. A person’s thoughts influence his actions. A person’s actions are formed into his habits. A person’s habits are fashioned into his character. And a person’s character determines his fate and destiny.
Rule # 6: Opportunities Will Be Presented
Opportunities are forks in one’s path. How we choose them determines, to a greater extent, our failure or success. Everyday, each one of us on this planet is presented with an opportunity. We must choose wisely, act fearlessly, and pursue each opportunity valiantly.
Rule # 7: Each Setback Provides Valuable Lessons
“The wise learns from his mistakes,” so says an old proverb. Life is not a bed of roses. As one pursues success, wealth, and fame, setbacks are inevitable. Setbacks are not bad; they are good. Setbacks allow us to reexamine our mode of operation, thus, helping us to improve it, and making us better persons in the process.
Rule # 8: Managing Your Resources Maximizes Your Efforts
Everyone is a steward, a manager, a caretaker. In terms of time, each one is given exactly 24 hours per day to manage. In terms of abilities, each one is given a certain ability to improve upon, and multiply. In terms of resources, the world is an open opportunity to be explored.
What’s the difference between those who succeeded and those who failed? Management! Success does not entail being born with a silver spoon in the mouth; although having a silver spoon is an advantage. Majority of successful people were not born with silver spoons. With their meager resources, they managed to multiply it by discipline and hard work.
Rule # 9: Every Level of Success Brings New Challenges
Rule # 9 reminds me our graduation exercises speaker twenty years ago when he said, “every commencement ceremony is the closing of one door and the opening of another with its new set of opportunity, frustration, and challenges.”
Looking back twenty years, I can undoubtedly say that the man was right on the money. Whether poor or rich, there is an inherent challenge that comes with it.
Rule # 10:
Success Is a Process That Never Ends
I thought I am done; I am not. If there is one thing that needs to be recycled more often, success must take pre-imminence. Not only because success begets success, but because success feels good. It becomes addictive, which, by the way, is a good addiction.
In success, the sky is the limit. So dream it. Work on it with unbending zeal. Seize every opportunity. Learn from your mistakes. Trust yourself. And savor every bit of it along the way.
To read Ole Alouni's other articles, please visit www.living-insights.com
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Saturday, November 15, 2008
CHANGE IS GOOD.......HERE IS THE PROOF
We Are Capable of Amazing Things
By Dr. Mario Barrett, Ph.D.
As a young African American man, I was moved to tears as I witnessed a black man become president of the United States. Even though our community has made tremendous strides in many areas, there are many areas that still require a great deal of improvement. This assessment made it difficult for me to see an african american winning the presidency in my lifetime. But, I am glad to see that I was wrong.
What does this victory mean to me? As a young child of immigrant Jamaica parents, I experienced firsthand the struggles of poverty, which was and still is endemic to much of the world's minority community. I witnessed drug dealers and drug users on my block's corner. I witnessed violence in my schoolyard and on the trains as I made my daily commute to within the concrete jungle of New York City. I witnessed my mother struggle to raise three children in section-8 housing. Struggle was my worldview, my reality. Being treated as less than an equal citizen in this great country was commonplace to me as a young adult, as black men were often vilified in the media. However, I chose not to simply accept the status quo attributed to young black boys from the hood. Instead, I dared to dream and strive to be someone unlike anyone I had ever seen in my neighborhood. I wanted to be someone for which there was no blueprint, no role model. Maybe my will to succeed came from my learning, understanding, and appreciating the struggles, leadership, and achievements of my ancestors.
Throughout my life, I have studied, watched footage, and heard about the struggles of blacks from the slave trade, to life on the plantation, to segregation, to the fight for equality during the Civil Rights movement. I have always admired the struggle, courage, hope, sacrifice, and leadership of my people, and have always been amazed at those that access their inner strength when faced with great adversity. This knowledge of my ancestors' inner strength brought forth an awareness of my inner strength and a great sense of pride for all who have stood up in the face of adversity. For this gift, I must say thank you.
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Thank you, Harriet. · Thank you, Fredrick. · Thank you, Martin. · Thank you, Nelson. · Thank you, Jesse. · And now, thank you, Barack. · Thank you to all my ancestors as well as all of those who crusaded for equality and justice. · Thank you for paving the road for me, as well as all of those that will come after me. · Thank you for your sustained fight against oppression. · Thank you for fighting for your dignity, which is what gives me mine. · Thank you for teaching me that life is not always a pretty road, but amazing things can be achieved if you keep working towards a worthwhile goal. · Thank you for sacrificing your life (in some cases) for that of future generations, so that we eventually witness something as amazing a black man rising to the most powerful office in the world.
I realize that it is now on our generation to keep pushing, just as you did. It is on us to redefine the perceptions that the world has about our community's desires and dreams. I would like to conclude by saying that even though there is still much work to be done, I hope that Barack Obama's election has allowed some of your souls to rest in peace, as you as well as President-elect Obama have shown the world that through courage and leadership we can all do amazing things.
Dr. Barrett has an earned PhD in applied management and decision sciences, with a specialization in leadership and organizational change. He also holds a MS in organizational leadership and a BS in organizational management. In addition to these degrees, Dr. Barrett has completed several executive certificates focusing on various areas of management and leadership development.
Dr. Barrett is proud of his academic accomplishments, as they are the product of his long and sometimes difficult journey out of poverty. Along his journey, Dr. Barrett served honorably in the U.S. Air Force, participating in several vital overseas operations in the Middle East and Europe. He has also taught organizational leadership courses at the graduate degree level at Mercy College. This desire to develop leadership whether it be in myself or others is what drives Dr. Barrett. Dr. Barrett currently lives in NYC, where he runs The Barrett Center for Leadership Development, LLC (http://www.TheBarrettCenter.com) and produces The Barrett Leadership Blog (http://www.TheBarrettCenter.blogspot.com).
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By Dr. Mario Barrett, Ph.D.
As a young African American man, I was moved to tears as I witnessed a black man become president of the United States. Even though our community has made tremendous strides in many areas, there are many areas that still require a great deal of improvement. This assessment made it difficult for me to see an african american winning the presidency in my lifetime. But, I am glad to see that I was wrong.
What does this victory mean to me? As a young child of immigrant Jamaica parents, I experienced firsthand the struggles of poverty, which was and still is endemic to much of the world's minority community. I witnessed drug dealers and drug users on my block's corner. I witnessed violence in my schoolyard and on the trains as I made my daily commute to within the concrete jungle of New York City. I witnessed my mother struggle to raise three children in section-8 housing. Struggle was my worldview, my reality. Being treated as less than an equal citizen in this great country was commonplace to me as a young adult, as black men were often vilified in the media. However, I chose not to simply accept the status quo attributed to young black boys from the hood. Instead, I dared to dream and strive to be someone unlike anyone I had ever seen in my neighborhood. I wanted to be someone for which there was no blueprint, no role model. Maybe my will to succeed came from my learning, understanding, and appreciating the struggles, leadership, and achievements of my ancestors.
Throughout my life, I have studied, watched footage, and heard about the struggles of blacks from the slave trade, to life on the plantation, to segregation, to the fight for equality during the Civil Rights movement. I have always admired the struggle, courage, hope, sacrifice, and leadership of my people, and have always been amazed at those that access their inner strength when faced with great adversity. This knowledge of my ancestors' inner strength brought forth an awareness of my inner strength and a great sense of pride for all who have stood up in the face of adversity. For this gift, I must say thank you.
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Thank you, Harriet. · Thank you, Fredrick. · Thank you, Martin. · Thank you, Nelson. · Thank you, Jesse. · And now, thank you, Barack. · Thank you to all my ancestors as well as all of those who crusaded for equality and justice. · Thank you for paving the road for me, as well as all of those that will come after me. · Thank you for your sustained fight against oppression. · Thank you for fighting for your dignity, which is what gives me mine. · Thank you for teaching me that life is not always a pretty road, but amazing things can be achieved if you keep working towards a worthwhile goal. · Thank you for sacrificing your life (in some cases) for that of future generations, so that we eventually witness something as amazing a black man rising to the most powerful office in the world.
I realize that it is now on our generation to keep pushing, just as you did. It is on us to redefine the perceptions that the world has about our community's desires and dreams. I would like to conclude by saying that even though there is still much work to be done, I hope that Barack Obama's election has allowed some of your souls to rest in peace, as you as well as President-elect Obama have shown the world that through courage and leadership we can all do amazing things.
Dr. Barrett has an earned PhD in applied management and decision sciences, with a specialization in leadership and organizational change. He also holds a MS in organizational leadership and a BS in organizational management. In addition to these degrees, Dr. Barrett has completed several executive certificates focusing on various areas of management and leadership development.
Dr. Barrett is proud of his academic accomplishments, as they are the product of his long and sometimes difficult journey out of poverty. Along his journey, Dr. Barrett served honorably in the U.S. Air Force, participating in several vital overseas operations in the Middle East and Europe. He has also taught organizational leadership courses at the graduate degree level at Mercy College. This desire to develop leadership whether it be in myself or others is what drives Dr. Barrett. Dr. Barrett currently lives in NYC, where he runs The Barrett Center for Leadership Development, LLC (http://www.TheBarrettCenter.com) and produces The Barrett Leadership Blog (http://www.TheBarrettCenter.blogspot.com).
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Monday, November 10, 2008
CHANGE IS GOOD......THE FORMULA FOR SUCCESS
Hope everyone is happy and thinking big…..
From an article that I read by Deepak K
There is nothing that we cannot accomplish if ……..
1- We Clearly decide what we are absolutely committed to achieving.
2-We are willing to take massive Action.
3-We Notice what is working or not.
4-Continue to change our approach until we achieve what we want.
Regards,
Barry Sarner
Get all motivational tips at Deepak. K's Self Development Zone. Get all articles related to self improvement or self development at Self Development Zone and Self Improvement Zone.
From an article that I read by Deepak K
There is nothing that we cannot accomplish if ……..
1- We Clearly decide what we are absolutely committed to achieving.
2-We are willing to take massive Action.
3-We Notice what is working or not.
4-Continue to change our approach until we achieve what we want.
5-NEVER NEVER NEVER GIVE UP (I added this one)
Just wanted to share the formula for success........Regards,
Barry Sarner
Get all motivational tips at Deepak. K's Self Development Zone. Get all articles related to self improvement or self development at Self Development Zone and Self Improvement Zone.
Friday, November 07, 2008
CHANGE IS GOOD......GET OFF YOUR BUTT
A Positive Attitude, Does it Really Help?
By Kenny Kadis
A POSITIVE ATTITUDE, MUMBO JUMBO?
Having a positive attitude in any walk of life will always help, but is it easier said than done? If you have crippling debts, if someone in your family or friends are terminally ill, if you've had no breaks in life it's extremely hard to have a positive attitude and say, don't worry, be happy, it'll be OK.
DOES IT REALLY WORK?
If you think that just changing the way you look at life will change everything and all will be fine, your sadly mistaken, being an optimist won't pay the mortgage, bills or kick start your business.For it to work you MUST combine positive thinking with ACTION. If you just sit there thinking positive thoughts and do nothing else nothing will happen. You have to take action that will bring your hopes and dreams to fruition. I have asked many successful people their secret and the answer is always the same, a positive attitude and HARD WORK.
WILL IT BRING ME LUCK? This is the part that can't be explained, having a positive outlook on life opens doors that didn't exist. What I mean by that is having an optimists view brings with it chances that you wouldn't have seen or couldn't see. Is this because when your down everything you view you view negatively therefore you can't see the wood for the trees? Maybe. I do know for a fact you are much more likelier to succeed if your positive that negative.Does having a positive attitude attract positive vibes? In my humble opinion there is some truth in this, how that works whether it's some unknown force in the universe is unknown but I do know that thinking positively makes a big difference in your working and social life.
HARD WORK
You must work hard if you want to change for the better. Whether financially or socially this is an absolute must. Absolutely nothing will happen for you if you don't work for it. Hard work has it's own rewards that will boost your confidence which in turn will make you feel great and make having a positive outlook that much easier to attain. Once you've achieved any goal you've set this in turn will make your confidence grow bringing with it those"positive vibes" I mentioned earlier. Please test this and see if it works, you'll be happily surprised.
Kenny Kadis http://www.wealthcreatorsite.com
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By Kenny Kadis
A POSITIVE ATTITUDE, MUMBO JUMBO?
Having a positive attitude in any walk of life will always help, but is it easier said than done? If you have crippling debts, if someone in your family or friends are terminally ill, if you've had no breaks in life it's extremely hard to have a positive attitude and say, don't worry, be happy, it'll be OK.
DOES IT REALLY WORK?
If you think that just changing the way you look at life will change everything and all will be fine, your sadly mistaken, being an optimist won't pay the mortgage, bills or kick start your business.For it to work you MUST combine positive thinking with ACTION. If you just sit there thinking positive thoughts and do nothing else nothing will happen. You have to take action that will bring your hopes and dreams to fruition. I have asked many successful people their secret and the answer is always the same, a positive attitude and HARD WORK.
WILL IT BRING ME LUCK? This is the part that can't be explained, having a positive outlook on life opens doors that didn't exist. What I mean by that is having an optimists view brings with it chances that you wouldn't have seen or couldn't see. Is this because when your down everything you view you view negatively therefore you can't see the wood for the trees? Maybe. I do know for a fact you are much more likelier to succeed if your positive that negative.Does having a positive attitude attract positive vibes? In my humble opinion there is some truth in this, how that works whether it's some unknown force in the universe is unknown but I do know that thinking positively makes a big difference in your working and social life.
HARD WORK
You must work hard if you want to change for the better. Whether financially or socially this is an absolute must. Absolutely nothing will happen for you if you don't work for it. Hard work has it's own rewards that will boost your confidence which in turn will make you feel great and make having a positive outlook that much easier to attain. Once you've achieved any goal you've set this in turn will make your confidence grow bringing with it those"positive vibes" I mentioned earlier. Please test this and see if it works, you'll be happily surprised.
Kenny Kadis http://www.wealthcreatorsite.com
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Friday, October 31, 2008
CHANGE IS GOOD.....IT'S ABOUT CHOICES
Life Potential - Don't Settle For Second Best
By Gillian Tyldesley
What stops you from trying something new, something that may be a bit difficult or doesn't fit in with your family or friends?
Many of us settle for the mediocre, the achievable without fuss, or just what is expected of us by others. On the surface we can all offer a brave face of a bad lot - some people may be very successful in certain areas of life but still they feel something is missing! In a world of abundance of choice we can get confused about what we really want and lose track of what we really feel.
We can develop many fears which hold us back from achievement. These fears may be out dated assumptions we have about ourselves, and as such need to be rooted out of our subconscious. Some of the beliefs we have about ourselves have been many years in the making and will not give up without a fight. Many beliefs are formed in childhood and come from other people's opinions about us - school friends, bullies, teachers, and siblings. And the process carries on into adolescence and is re-enforced into adulthood.
The subconscious mind can not distinguish between the true article and the falsehood. It simply wants to follow the same old well worn track that it is used to. Your mind will filter out information that does not fit in with your picture of life. Therefore if you don't change your picture of life the chances are you may never become aware of opportunities that are all around you. Just like a self-fulfilling prophecy what you expect to happen to you often does. Your potential is laid to rest.
In order to reach your true potential you can start by examining your beliefs. You must ask yourself "what is this belief costing me". If the belief is holding you back you can start on the road to challenge and overturn that belief. Without knowledge the status quo continues. Remember that travelling the same road over and over will never take you to a new destination. Sometimes you need to stop, look around and choose a different road.
Gillian Tyldesley helps people reach their true potential and achieve good life balance through coaching. To find out how visit http://www.lifecoachsouthwest.co.uk Check out my seven journey steps on the 'whats new' page
I am a life coach working in the area of personal and professional development. I help people address such issues as low self esteem or confidence, relationships, and all round wellness. I have found that with introspection comes awareness of personal potential. Ignorance is not bliss if you want to make changes in your life. You can find out more about me on my website http://www.lifecoachsouthwest.co.uk
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By Gillian Tyldesley
What stops you from trying something new, something that may be a bit difficult or doesn't fit in with your family or friends?
Many of us settle for the mediocre, the achievable without fuss, or just what is expected of us by others. On the surface we can all offer a brave face of a bad lot - some people may be very successful in certain areas of life but still they feel something is missing! In a world of abundance of choice we can get confused about what we really want and lose track of what we really feel.
We can develop many fears which hold us back from achievement. These fears may be out dated assumptions we have about ourselves, and as such need to be rooted out of our subconscious. Some of the beliefs we have about ourselves have been many years in the making and will not give up without a fight. Many beliefs are formed in childhood and come from other people's opinions about us - school friends, bullies, teachers, and siblings. And the process carries on into adolescence and is re-enforced into adulthood.
The subconscious mind can not distinguish between the true article and the falsehood. It simply wants to follow the same old well worn track that it is used to. Your mind will filter out information that does not fit in with your picture of life. Therefore if you don't change your picture of life the chances are you may never become aware of opportunities that are all around you. Just like a self-fulfilling prophecy what you expect to happen to you often does. Your potential is laid to rest.
In order to reach your true potential you can start by examining your beliefs. You must ask yourself "what is this belief costing me". If the belief is holding you back you can start on the road to challenge and overturn that belief. Without knowledge the status quo continues. Remember that travelling the same road over and over will never take you to a new destination. Sometimes you need to stop, look around and choose a different road.
Gillian Tyldesley helps people reach their true potential and achieve good life balance through coaching. To find out how visit http://www.lifecoachsouthwest.co.uk Check out my seven journey steps on the 'whats new' page
I am a life coach working in the area of personal and professional development. I help people address such issues as low self esteem or confidence, relationships, and all round wellness. I have found that with introspection comes awareness of personal potential. Ignorance is not bliss if you want to make changes in your life. You can find out more about me on my website http://www.lifecoachsouthwest.co.uk
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Friday, October 24, 2008
CHANGE IS GOOD.....BUT NOT FOR THE LONE RANGER
Someone Believes in You!
By Mike Marino, Jr.
Do you know who believes in you? Every time someone invites you to an event or an activity, they are telling you that they believe in you. Maybe someone introduced you to a significant other person, or a job. They were telling you they thought you had the right stuff to make it work.
Who pushed you into the profession you now have. They are still pulling for you to make it. They know you have the right stuff. Now you must decide if you have the right stuff. Do you?
If someone pushes you into a pool filled with 14 foot hungry alligators, they believe you have the right stuff to make it to the other side and come out alive.
You have no idea, how many people are praying for you right now.
The worst thing that could happen to you is for someone to believe in you more than you believe in yourself. It does not mean you will not want help to do the task.
You will have to push others to help you, because you believe in them also. Never be the lone ranger. You know the story. The lone ranger tells Tonto; "Tonto, we are surrounded by Indians!" Tonto replies; "I am an Indian!"
Surround yourself with people you believe in also. After all someone believed in you. If no one cares who gets the credit, as long as everyone gets the cash. Two heads are always better than one. Unless they are arguing. How may I serve humanity with humility? What can I do?
Mike Marino, Jr. aka "In Person," is the co-author of two books and a Distinguished Toastmaster who helps people fall in love with learning. He speaks and writes on the love of Knowledge is the root of all good!. To book Mike for your next association meeting, conference or corporate event, contact Mike Marino, Jr. In person 504 833 4405 or email marinojr@bellsouth.net
Proud member of the New Orleans Metropolitan Convention and Visitors Bureau. All presentations are available in PowerPoint or Keynote.
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By Mike Marino, Jr.
Do you know who believes in you? Every time someone invites you to an event or an activity, they are telling you that they believe in you. Maybe someone introduced you to a significant other person, or a job. They were telling you they thought you had the right stuff to make it work.
Who pushed you into the profession you now have. They are still pulling for you to make it. They know you have the right stuff. Now you must decide if you have the right stuff. Do you?
If someone pushes you into a pool filled with 14 foot hungry alligators, they believe you have the right stuff to make it to the other side and come out alive.
You have no idea, how many people are praying for you right now.
The worst thing that could happen to you is for someone to believe in you more than you believe in yourself. It does not mean you will not want help to do the task.
You will have to push others to help you, because you believe in them also. Never be the lone ranger. You know the story. The lone ranger tells Tonto; "Tonto, we are surrounded by Indians!" Tonto replies; "I am an Indian!"
Surround yourself with people you believe in also. After all someone believed in you. If no one cares who gets the credit, as long as everyone gets the cash. Two heads are always better than one. Unless they are arguing. How may I serve humanity with humility? What can I do?
Mike Marino, Jr. aka "In Person," is the co-author of two books and a Distinguished Toastmaster who helps people fall in love with learning. He speaks and writes on the love of Knowledge is the root of all good!. To book Mike for your next association meeting, conference or corporate event, contact Mike Marino, Jr. In person 504 833 4405 or email marinojr@bellsouth.net
Proud member of the New Orleans Metropolitan Convention and Visitors Bureau. All presentations are available in PowerPoint or Keynote.
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Friday, October 17, 2008
CHANGE IS GOOD......IT STARTS FROM THE INSIDE
Opening Up to the Big Change Within
By Lynn M. Scheurell
"Change, when it comes, cracks everything open." ~ Dorothy Allison
If you stop and think about it, life moves in cycles. There are seasons to pretty much everything. Sometimes they are predictable in their shifts, like the seasons or waves coming to shore or the migration of geese but usually the biggest shifts happen when we least expect it, even - or maybe especially - when we know they are going to happen.
For example, you know that endings, which might be the death of a situation, circumstance, or relationship, are essential for a number of reasons. The reasons you give those endings might range from "it's run its course" to "it's time for change" to "there is a bigger picture here", or a myriad of other substantiations for the ending that is occurring. And while all are some sort of rationale for the experience, each of them gives a sense that there is something new coming in...a new beginning of some sort. It is only through the ending of what was that the new can come into being; however, knowing that doesn't always make the transition any easier.
What may people may not realize is that the change that is occurring through the endings and beginnings in the physical world is actually a reflection of their own inner state. That is, change that occurs within has no other consequence than to express in an outer form, in a physical representation of what occurred inside that person.
Consider how that has shown up for you in your life...maybe you were waiting to hear from someone who owed you money but it was only when you stopped thinking about that with anger that the check showed up in the mail. Maybe you had a misunderstanding with a family member and it was when you felt the forgiveness in your heart that the phone rang with their call. Maybe things didn't flow in your world how you wanted them to and you channeled the frustration energy into cleaning your office and suddenly the world started working with you for a change...
All of these examples represent that your inner experience impacts your outer world. You didn't do anything different on the outside to create a new result - it was your inner relationship with awareness that made the new situation possible in the outer world. And for a soul-driven entrepreneur, knowing that can make all the difference in the degree of success you enjoy with and through your business.
Three Things You Can Do Today:
1. Everything counts. And nothing is the same when you understand that concept. Another way I've heard it is "how do you do anything is how you do everything" - wow. Talk about being accountable...the universe is noticing who you're being when nobody is looking and THAT is the foundation that you are creating from in your business. We soul-driven types have taken on the higher vibration path of distilling who we are and the innate gifts we have in service to the world - no small charge - and that gives everything we do a little extra "ka-pow" factor in every way. There is just no escaping that...(hmmm...some "ka-pow karma" anyone???) :+)
2. You are responsible for your creations. You are the only one inside you, as an expression of universal energy on the physical level; you are the only one who CAN be responsible for what you're creating. In The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupery, there is a memorable passage: 'Men have forgotten this truth,' said the fox. 'But you must not forget it. You become responsible, forever, for what you have tamed.' And it is only by 'owning' what you have already created that you give yourself the power to create something new going forward.
3. Bigger physical results require even bigger inner changes. By asking for or wanting bigger results in the physical world, you are asking your spirit to bring you the inner experiences necessary to achieve that. The old adage 'be careful what you ask for' is something to consider, because you are setting yourself up to clear out whatever is in the way energetically to have what you want.
Remember that the biggest changes can only occur from the inside out...so when it's time to create something new, go to where it really matters to make it happen.
© 2008 Lynn M. Scheurell, All Rights Reserved.
Lynn Scheurell, Creative Catalyst, works with soul-driven entrepreneurs to create a livelihood from their true purpose. This type of business development requires extreme personal clarity in combination with innovation and active implementation of proven business practices. Download a free report to learn "The Seven Deadly Mistakes That Keep Soul-Driven Business Owners from Making Money" at http://www.mycreativecatalyst.com
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By Lynn M. Scheurell
"Change, when it comes, cracks everything open." ~ Dorothy Allison
If you stop and think about it, life moves in cycles. There are seasons to pretty much everything. Sometimes they are predictable in their shifts, like the seasons or waves coming to shore or the migration of geese but usually the biggest shifts happen when we least expect it, even - or maybe especially - when we know they are going to happen.
For example, you know that endings, which might be the death of a situation, circumstance, or relationship, are essential for a number of reasons. The reasons you give those endings might range from "it's run its course" to "it's time for change" to "there is a bigger picture here", or a myriad of other substantiations for the ending that is occurring. And while all are some sort of rationale for the experience, each of them gives a sense that there is something new coming in...a new beginning of some sort. It is only through the ending of what was that the new can come into being; however, knowing that doesn't always make the transition any easier.
What may people may not realize is that the change that is occurring through the endings and beginnings in the physical world is actually a reflection of their own inner state. That is, change that occurs within has no other consequence than to express in an outer form, in a physical representation of what occurred inside that person.
Consider how that has shown up for you in your life...maybe you were waiting to hear from someone who owed you money but it was only when you stopped thinking about that with anger that the check showed up in the mail. Maybe you had a misunderstanding with a family member and it was when you felt the forgiveness in your heart that the phone rang with their call. Maybe things didn't flow in your world how you wanted them to and you channeled the frustration energy into cleaning your office and suddenly the world started working with you for a change...
All of these examples represent that your inner experience impacts your outer world. You didn't do anything different on the outside to create a new result - it was your inner relationship with awareness that made the new situation possible in the outer world. And for a soul-driven entrepreneur, knowing that can make all the difference in the degree of success you enjoy with and through your business.
Three Things You Can Do Today:
1. Everything counts. And nothing is the same when you understand that concept. Another way I've heard it is "how do you do anything is how you do everything" - wow. Talk about being accountable...the universe is noticing who you're being when nobody is looking and THAT is the foundation that you are creating from in your business. We soul-driven types have taken on the higher vibration path of distilling who we are and the innate gifts we have in service to the world - no small charge - and that gives everything we do a little extra "ka-pow" factor in every way. There is just no escaping that...(hmmm...some "ka-pow karma" anyone???) :+)
2. You are responsible for your creations. You are the only one inside you, as an expression of universal energy on the physical level; you are the only one who CAN be responsible for what you're creating. In The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupery, there is a memorable passage: 'Men have forgotten this truth,' said the fox. 'But you must not forget it. You become responsible, forever, for what you have tamed.' And it is only by 'owning' what you have already created that you give yourself the power to create something new going forward.
3. Bigger physical results require even bigger inner changes. By asking for or wanting bigger results in the physical world, you are asking your spirit to bring you the inner experiences necessary to achieve that. The old adage 'be careful what you ask for' is something to consider, because you are setting yourself up to clear out whatever is in the way energetically to have what you want.
Remember that the biggest changes can only occur from the inside out...so when it's time to create something new, go to where it really matters to make it happen.
© 2008 Lynn M. Scheurell, All Rights Reserved.
Lynn Scheurell, Creative Catalyst, works with soul-driven entrepreneurs to create a livelihood from their true purpose. This type of business development requires extreme personal clarity in combination with innovation and active implementation of proven business practices. Download a free report to learn "The Seven Deadly Mistakes That Keep Soul-Driven Business Owners from Making Money" at http://www.mycreativecatalyst.com
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Sunday, October 05, 2008
CHANGE IS GOOD ........YOU MUST KEEP IT POSITIVE
You Must Have a Positive Attitude & Atmosphere in Your Business to Insure Success
By Melissa Vokoun
The difference between success and failure is a very fine line. It was Henry Ford who said: "If you think you can do a thing or think you can't do a thing, you're right." In my many years' experience of running companies, departments and working with clients, I have always found that Henry Ford hit the nail on the head. With the attitude of "I can't" or "we can't" or "that won't work" success is very elusive and harder to achieve.
When working with clients now, I coach the owner or entrepreneur into always approaching the success of their business as a fait accompli and even during the bad times, not letting the negatively defeat them. Only with time reflecting back on the times that I stopped believing in success or fell into a deep feeling of negativity, did I realize what happened was part of my own "self-fulfilling" prophesy - it just wasn't going to work out, and alas, it did not.
This critical breakthrough of having the business owner believe in their success without boundaries has allowed many of them to take a leap of faith that makes success more tangible and accessible. I am not going to tell you this is always easy - faced with a pile of Accounts Payable, stagnant or falling sales, poor customer retention, etc., can be a huge obstacle to blind faith in success - but it has to be there or the road is so long and so hard to travel.
Negatively will suck all the energy out of a business - like a vacuum, you will find it is hard to be energetic when negatively is the prevailing atmosphere. In order to have energy, you must remain positive - for energy is a by-product of positive attitude. You can't feel positive and lethargic and drawn out at the same time. Yes, you can experience fatigue for working long hours, frustration for not getting enough done on a certain day, fearfulness of making that presentation or calling that prospect, but you cannot lose your energy when you have the power of positive thinking at your back!
The next important step is removing negative people from your organization. This is by far the most critical step for most business owners. When negatively and lack of energy enter an organization, it is like a creeping mist throughout the office - I don't mean to be ghoulish here, but it is like a hypnotic trance that is hard to break.
When I walk into an organization that I am coaching - and I sense that negativity by a few well-placed questions to those I encounter, I usually find myself taking the next two hours discussing with the owner where the source of the negativity is and how to eliminate the cause. This is where the discussion gets tough. You would be surprised the number of "key employees" that turn out to be the ones who are the most negative and unable to change their attitudes. As part of coaching, we have a questionnaire that we give to all the employees, and when we identify these "energy drainers" as I like to call them, it is very difficult to get them out of the business.
Honestly, they are masters of their trades. They make themselves indispensable (so they think) and find a way to dominate most of the workers who would never complain about their tactics - and so it goes on and on until the "energy drainers" have instilled fear in most of the rank and file - and the "boss" never really understands what that nagging feeling is that something isn't quite right.
Well, through analysis and evaluation, the culprits of negativity, biting sarcasm (usually aimed at the boss behind his/his back), veiled threats, and other well-used tactics can be exposed easily enough. Now the trick is to get them out of the organization.
This is the most difficult step. The business owner thinks that the business will suffer from loss of the "competence, business knowledge, and officiousness" this person or group of employees have. They usually appear very loyal to "the business" but that is their mask and how they are so successful in hiding out for long periods of time. It is a hard decision to break ties when you know that filling those positions and getting the right employees hired, trained, and profitable will take time and money. But in the end, the business is already losing time and money - not always apparent to the business owner. How many employees spend time complaining about "that one" or work not getting done because the "energy drainer" has his/her own agenda and timelines. This is a very difficult change to make, but I have worked with business owners and seen through my own experiences, that making these changes can make all the difference in the world between success and failure.
When I ran a company of over 100 employees and a change in the economy forced a lay-off, I had identified the "energy drainers" in my staffs and in all departments, and they were the first to be shown the door. Afterwards, there was a collective sigh of relief and many remaining workers stuck their heads in the door with a "thumbs up" or a whispered "thanks" - and although it might have been due to the fact that they retained their job, there was the underlying sense that they were relieved that the bad apples had been culled from the harvest!
These are very tough times that we all face - and as a business owner you need all the positive, high-performing employees on the team. Please take my advice -- if the time comes to do a little housecleaning - make you choice to exclude the negativity and the energy-draining employees from the rebuilding that will eventually occur. Your remaining employees will thank you - silently or more verbally if you have that type of feedback allowed in your organization. And as you rebuild the team, if someone seems to be a bit negative in talking about their ex-employer or their lot in life - give them a pass. You really can't afford them!
Melissa Vokoun is a successful Business Advisor, Coach and Trainer. From 1983 to 2005 she was COO and VP of Sales and Marketing for a national telecom equipment distributor. Her passion for business, working with clients in solving critical issues in the strategic, tactical and operational areas of growth continues. She is now President and Founder of NuVo Partners and Successful Business Advisors and The Coaching Queen. To learn more about the services available, please visit the website at: http://www.coachingqueen.com or call 847-392-6886.
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