Do You Feel All is Lost Now?
By Daxx Bondoc
Daxx BondocLevel: BasicDaxx Bondoc has been serving the poor with the Missionaries of Charity (Mother Teresa’s sister) since 2004. His works with the poor included Catechesis, Bible ... ...
Suffering is one of the hardest mystery man has to face. Many have lost faith because of it.
So how can we look at suffering and not lose hope?
Imagine you found a book, The Two Towers of The Lord of the Rings. But the book you found lacked the last chapter. The book ended with the Orcs seizing Minas Tirith and defeating the humans. You would think that it was a depressing novel!
Because you have not read what happens next, which is the Riders of Rohan arrives at the break of dawn and defeated the invading Orcs, you would have miss the glory of the ending of the novel.
Sometimes when suffering and pains hit us, we feel that all is lost. This is the end. We have a tendency to summarize our life in that painful moment. And we fall to discouragement and even despair.
But what we forget is that this moment is only a chapter in the story of our life. The story does not end, unless we choose to end it.
God is the Divine Story teller. He directs everything that happens in our lives. Yes, even the painful ones He permits for the greater good.
If it was not for the danger of Sauron of taking over Middle Earth, the humans and elves would have not united. The evilness of Sauron became the reason of their unity, and eventually peace in the lands.
Heroes are born in crisis. It was in the darkest moment of the story when Aragorn took on his kingly role and lead the victory. We can see in history that man's greatness shone during the worst of times. Churchill became great during the Nazi era. Martin Luther King became great during the heights of racism towards the black people in America. And we can see with other great people like Gandhi, John Paul II and Mother Teresa, all of them became great not because it was the best of times. They became great because it was the worst of times.
The darker the night, the brighter the stars shine.
"It was the best of times, it was the worst of times " - Charles Dickens
We must remember that when suffering hits us, it is not the end. It is only a chapter in our lives. And the chapter continues. And we move on.
We must have faith in God that He has a beautiful ending for our lives. All we have to do is to make it there.
Daxx Bondochttp://www.inspirationalblogs.com
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Saturday, June 13, 2009
Sunday, June 07, 2009
CHANGE IS GOOD.....RESPECT YOURSELF
Negative Talk - The Sure Path to Self-Destruction
By Ian J Spencer
Compare these weeds with negative thoughts that every person experiences from time to time. You are caught in the traffic and you would be thinking, "My boss would kill me today", or you missed your deadline and you think, "This will earn me the pink slip", or you forget your spouses birthday and think, "I will never hear the end of this" and so on. This is common and it is okay. You tend to exaggerate a little when you are in trouble - but you know in your heart that this would not happen. The trouble starts when these thoughts take over and you are convinced that these exaggerations are true or can be even worse than you imagine.
Anxiety does not happen overnight unless you have experienced some major trauma. In most cases, anxiety literally grows on you fed by your negative thoughts and inner fears. It is like a little spark lighted inside when you think something negative; you continue thinking negative the spark would grow into a fire; you start thinking positive, the spark will die out.
So, if you are diagnosed as suffering from anxiety take a step back and identify all the negative thoughts that course through your mind. Make a list (you could carry a little notebook with you) of all these thoughts and at the end of the day write at least two positive versions for every one of the negative thoughts. Focus on the positive. Push your mind to look and hope for the best. Fight the negative thoughts with the opposing positive thoughts as soon and as strongly as you can.
Most people, who suffer from anxiety also feel hopeless, worthless, and followed by doom. It is like that cartoon where there is this little cloud only above your head, which rains on you incessantly. When you suffer from low esteem you tend to accept it when someone talks to you rudely, because you feel you deserve it.
The belief that that you are worthless and the fact that people treat you bad compound the negative thoughts and fire the anxiety symptoms.
Check your body language when you find people bullying you all the time. If you project an image which is timid, fearful, and unsure of yourself, people would tend to override and play with your feelings because that is what your body language tells them to do. You would have definitely seen people who displayed a magnetic and confident personality; they could breeze in the toughest of spots, get things done and move away almost effortlessly.
What do they have that you do not have? Confidence; belief that they can; a positive attitude.
Keep in mind that if you project the picture of a looser you would be treated like one. You need to practice looking confident (even if at times you do not seem so) and walk in with your head held high. Talk distinctly as if you have no doubt that your request would be addressed immediately. Think big, behave big and you would have the world at your feet. Remember the adage, "If you believe you can, you can."
That you need to weed out negative thoughts from your mind is definitely understood. Let us recapitulate the things you need to do so you could control the flow of these thought and the grip that would get on you.
Recognize The Symptoms Of Anxiety I have described in detail the symptoms that are associated with Anxiety disorder. Recognize these symptoms and beware that you are suffering from a disorder, which can be helped provided you adopt the right treatment. If you find that you are worrying excessively, berating yourself over everything that goes wrong, feeling like a victim - you are suffering from anxiety.
Think positive Whatever worries you has a positive side. I am not telling you that the death of a dear one can be changed into a positive thing - at least at the time - but most worries can be averted by thinking positively, i.e. not focusing only on the 'what if this would happen' part. In most cases the 'what if this would happen' never happens. So keep that in mind when you are plagued by worrisome thoughts. Do not indulge in these thoughts. I had a friend who found a very simple way to chase away worry - he started believing that when you think of a bad thing, it would happen; therefore, the moment the thought of a bad thing would enter his mind, he would immediately chase it away with good thoughts. Guess what - it worked. He is now free from anxiety and worry!
You Are Not At Fault - Even When You Are It looks like an oxymoron, but it is not. Let us say that a terrible accident happened because you forgot to press the right button in the factory. It is terrible, true. You are responsible, true. However, mistakes happen with humans, and you are human.
Take the responsibility, accept the penalty, atone for it in whichever way possible, learn from the mistake and move on. 'Move on' means you forgive yourself and forget about this incident - not the lesson. You stop carrying the guilt, you stop saying to yourself you are useless, hopeless, worthless. You start afresh. Tomorrow is a new day, a new beginning. You need to stop putting yourself down and stand up for yourself if others do.
Stop Self-Pity In Its Tracks Self-pity is as bad as berating yourself. If you find yourself feeling like a victim, because everybody seems to take it out on you, stop. You are not a victim. You are not going to let yourself believe that you are the butt of everyone's oppressive behavior. Think positive. You can do whatever you want. You are a survivor. You are a person with self-dignity and strength to fight for yourself whenever you feel you are treated shabbily. Take action now; remedy the problem the same moment it occurs. You will find you feel better every day.
Click Here to grab your FREE Stress Relief Manifesto Report. It'd show you how you can achieve inner calm and eliminate stress from your life forever. For more information on dealing with anxiety, panic attacks and stress. Visit the anxiety help blog today.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Ian_J_Spencer
By Ian J Spencer
Compare these weeds with negative thoughts that every person experiences from time to time. You are caught in the traffic and you would be thinking, "My boss would kill me today", or you missed your deadline and you think, "This will earn me the pink slip", or you forget your spouses birthday and think, "I will never hear the end of this" and so on. This is common and it is okay. You tend to exaggerate a little when you are in trouble - but you know in your heart that this would not happen. The trouble starts when these thoughts take over and you are convinced that these exaggerations are true or can be even worse than you imagine.
Anxiety does not happen overnight unless you have experienced some major trauma. In most cases, anxiety literally grows on you fed by your negative thoughts and inner fears. It is like a little spark lighted inside when you think something negative; you continue thinking negative the spark would grow into a fire; you start thinking positive, the spark will die out.
So, if you are diagnosed as suffering from anxiety take a step back and identify all the negative thoughts that course through your mind. Make a list (you could carry a little notebook with you) of all these thoughts and at the end of the day write at least two positive versions for every one of the negative thoughts. Focus on the positive. Push your mind to look and hope for the best. Fight the negative thoughts with the opposing positive thoughts as soon and as strongly as you can.
Most people, who suffer from anxiety also feel hopeless, worthless, and followed by doom. It is like that cartoon where there is this little cloud only above your head, which rains on you incessantly. When you suffer from low esteem you tend to accept it when someone talks to you rudely, because you feel you deserve it.
The belief that that you are worthless and the fact that people treat you bad compound the negative thoughts and fire the anxiety symptoms.
Check your body language when you find people bullying you all the time. If you project an image which is timid, fearful, and unsure of yourself, people would tend to override and play with your feelings because that is what your body language tells them to do. You would have definitely seen people who displayed a magnetic and confident personality; they could breeze in the toughest of spots, get things done and move away almost effortlessly.
What do they have that you do not have? Confidence; belief that they can; a positive attitude.
Keep in mind that if you project the picture of a looser you would be treated like one. You need to practice looking confident (even if at times you do not seem so) and walk in with your head held high. Talk distinctly as if you have no doubt that your request would be addressed immediately. Think big, behave big and you would have the world at your feet. Remember the adage, "If you believe you can, you can."
That you need to weed out negative thoughts from your mind is definitely understood. Let us recapitulate the things you need to do so you could control the flow of these thought and the grip that would get on you.
Recognize The Symptoms Of Anxiety I have described in detail the symptoms that are associated with Anxiety disorder. Recognize these symptoms and beware that you are suffering from a disorder, which can be helped provided you adopt the right treatment. If you find that you are worrying excessively, berating yourself over everything that goes wrong, feeling like a victim - you are suffering from anxiety.
Think positive Whatever worries you has a positive side. I am not telling you that the death of a dear one can be changed into a positive thing - at least at the time - but most worries can be averted by thinking positively, i.e. not focusing only on the 'what if this would happen' part. In most cases the 'what if this would happen' never happens. So keep that in mind when you are plagued by worrisome thoughts. Do not indulge in these thoughts. I had a friend who found a very simple way to chase away worry - he started believing that when you think of a bad thing, it would happen; therefore, the moment the thought of a bad thing would enter his mind, he would immediately chase it away with good thoughts. Guess what - it worked. He is now free from anxiety and worry!
You Are Not At Fault - Even When You Are It looks like an oxymoron, but it is not. Let us say that a terrible accident happened because you forgot to press the right button in the factory. It is terrible, true. You are responsible, true. However, mistakes happen with humans, and you are human.
Take the responsibility, accept the penalty, atone for it in whichever way possible, learn from the mistake and move on. 'Move on' means you forgive yourself and forget about this incident - not the lesson. You stop carrying the guilt, you stop saying to yourself you are useless, hopeless, worthless. You start afresh. Tomorrow is a new day, a new beginning. You need to stop putting yourself down and stand up for yourself if others do.
Stop Self-Pity In Its Tracks Self-pity is as bad as berating yourself. If you find yourself feeling like a victim, because everybody seems to take it out on you, stop. You are not a victim. You are not going to let yourself believe that you are the butt of everyone's oppressive behavior. Think positive. You can do whatever you want. You are a survivor. You are a person with self-dignity and strength to fight for yourself whenever you feel you are treated shabbily. Take action now; remedy the problem the same moment it occurs. You will find you feel better every day.
Click Here to grab your FREE Stress Relief Manifesto Report. It'd show you how you can achieve inner calm and eliminate stress from your life forever. For more information on dealing with anxiety, panic attacks and stress. Visit the anxiety help blog today.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Ian_J_Spencer
Monday, June 01, 2009
CHANGE IS GOOD......TOMORROW IS ANOTHER DAY
It's Easy to Become Rich, Famous and Happy - Lesson Three - POSITIVE EXPECTANCY
By Barry Sarner
Success is not about one particular "thing"... It's not even about two, three or five "things." Success is about a journey. Your personal journey. It's about fear. It's about tears. It's about laughter. It's about triumph. It's about setbacks.
That is what the "It's Easy to Become Rich, Famous and Happy" series is all about. We are going to make it happen and this is the road map.
Let's stay together, Never ever give up and move forward to our dreams.
Let's get on with it... One subject at a time, One day at a time. We will Prevail. All of us. Every single one of us. No person left behind.
Lesson THREE Positive Expectancy
You are the director of the movie of your life. That means you have the power to change anything you want in your life. You have the power to move mountains from one scene to another. You have the power to be who you want to be.
There is one catch. . . you must believe, truly believe, in yourself. Let's take a look at the success in your life. Remember a situation and close your eyes and feel it. Look at a real simple one first. Can you honestly say that when you started that particular journey or project you expected it to fail? I highly doubt it. The truth is you had to expect to win more than you expected to lose and there might have been a little luck, being in the right place at the right time or other favorable conditions. The reality of it was that most of it was that you expected to succeed, to get it done, to make it happen.
Expecting good things to happen to you and expecting victory is about self respect and confidence in your yourself.
Positive Expectancy is about attitude. It's about..."No matter what happens, no matter how brutal my reality is, I will Prevail;" "I will be OK;" "I will succeed." " I deserve success."
With this attitude the beautiful thing is that you are allowed to screw up. You are allowed to make mistakes. You are allowed to get knocked on your butt from forces beyond your control. All this could happen to you BUT, and this is a huge BUT, you must have full faith and confidence in yourself that you will get to the other side and be ok.
The person who lives with Positive Expectancy knows how to turn setbacks into new beginnings and sees change as an opportunity to get another chance to do a do over. That person knows that they always get a free pass to start all over again tomorrow...always.
Positive expectancy is not about being a super person and getting everything right all the time. It's about being a human being who understands that life does suck at times and that life is not fair. You may hit the proverbial brick wall at times but you always know that you will be ok and that you will find a way to learn from the setback, change your circumstances , and get up and try again...and again and again and again.
Expect Failure You'll Get it. Expect Success You'll Get It. It's Up To You. It's That Simple.
Barry Sarner, Mr. Change is Good, is a Serial Entrepreneur and the owner of the Trademarked Slogan "CHANGE IS GOOD".
A Message From Barry...
"Is there one thing that is holding you back from becoming wildly successful and happy? The rich, famous,and happy people know what that is. It's that six letter word that turns most people upside down and inside out...CHANGE...Let's hear about what effect CHANGE has had on your personal or business life and how you came out on top...or not. Let's share our stories, advice and help each other live peacefully with change. LET'S HELP EACH OTHER TO MAKE OUR DREAMS COME TRUE... CHANGE IS GOOD". C'mon people let's form the biggest mastermind group in the world. You can be the one !!! you can make a difference...Help me, Help us..Meet me at my Blog with your stories, advice and inspirational messages.
http://www.changeisgoodusa.com/http://www.changeisgoodusa.blogspot.com/
By Barry Sarner
Success is not about one particular "thing"... It's not even about two, three or five "things." Success is about a journey. Your personal journey. It's about fear. It's about tears. It's about laughter. It's about triumph. It's about setbacks.
That is what the "It's Easy to Become Rich, Famous and Happy" series is all about. We are going to make it happen and this is the road map.
Let's stay together, Never ever give up and move forward to our dreams.
Let's get on with it... One subject at a time, One day at a time. We will Prevail. All of us. Every single one of us. No person left behind.
Lesson THREE Positive Expectancy
You are the director of the movie of your life. That means you have the power to change anything you want in your life. You have the power to move mountains from one scene to another. You have the power to be who you want to be.
There is one catch. . . you must believe, truly believe, in yourself. Let's take a look at the success in your life. Remember a situation and close your eyes and feel it. Look at a real simple one first. Can you honestly say that when you started that particular journey or project you expected it to fail? I highly doubt it. The truth is you had to expect to win more than you expected to lose and there might have been a little luck, being in the right place at the right time or other favorable conditions. The reality of it was that most of it was that you expected to succeed, to get it done, to make it happen.
Expecting good things to happen to you and expecting victory is about self respect and confidence in your yourself.
Positive Expectancy is about attitude. It's about..."No matter what happens, no matter how brutal my reality is, I will Prevail;" "I will be OK;" "I will succeed." " I deserve success."
With this attitude the beautiful thing is that you are allowed to screw up. You are allowed to make mistakes. You are allowed to get knocked on your butt from forces beyond your control. All this could happen to you BUT, and this is a huge BUT, you must have full faith and confidence in yourself that you will get to the other side and be ok.
The person who lives with Positive Expectancy knows how to turn setbacks into new beginnings and sees change as an opportunity to get another chance to do a do over. That person knows that they always get a free pass to start all over again tomorrow...always.
Positive expectancy is not about being a super person and getting everything right all the time. It's about being a human being who understands that life does suck at times and that life is not fair. You may hit the proverbial brick wall at times but you always know that you will be ok and that you will find a way to learn from the setback, change your circumstances , and get up and try again...and again and again and again.
Expect Failure You'll Get it. Expect Success You'll Get It. It's Up To You. It's That Simple.
Barry Sarner, Mr. Change is Good, is a Serial Entrepreneur and the owner of the Trademarked Slogan "CHANGE IS GOOD".
A Message From Barry...
"Is there one thing that is holding you back from becoming wildly successful and happy? The rich, famous,and happy people know what that is. It's that six letter word that turns most people upside down and inside out...CHANGE...Let's hear about what effect CHANGE has had on your personal or business life and how you came out on top...or not. Let's share our stories, advice and help each other live peacefully with change. LET'S HELP EACH OTHER TO MAKE OUR DREAMS COME TRUE... CHANGE IS GOOD". C'mon people let's form the biggest mastermind group in the world. You can be the one !!! you can make a difference...Help me, Help us..Meet me at my Blog with your stories, advice and inspirational messages.
http://www.changeisgoodusa.com/http://www.changeisgoodusa.blogspot.com/
Saturday, May 16, 2009
CHANGE IS GOOD. . . . .CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS
It's Easy to Become Rich, Famous and Happy - Lesson Two
By BARRY SARNER
Hi All...
Let's get on with our "magic mystery tour."
Everything that you are or ever will be is the result of how you use your mind. The world you see is simply the result of thought. Magnificent achievements and wondrous Journeys all started with a thought. I'm telling you now that it is a fact, whatever you believe you can achieve. Think you'll fail ? There is a good chance you will...Think you'll succeed? There is a good chance you will. You'll never be wrong.
The above concept has been covered and written about ad nauseum. The phrase, ad nauseum, has been used ad nauseum. The point?... Obviously you must come to accept this concept as a fact. You must think positive thoughts. You must also accept the fact that this is crazy. It's impossible to think positive thoughts all the time. Let's all agree that where you are today, is where you THOUGHT you were supposed to be. You can change your life by changing the way you think. I'm not minimizing the concept at all. I know it to be true. I've been there and done that but...
What about the negative little buggers that creep into your thinking? The ones that make you sad, angry or fearful. Do you close your eyes and start singing Gloria Gaynor's song "I Will Survive? and hope they go away? No, you don't. You work with your emotions and feelings and move forward.
Learning how to manage and be in control of your mind and all your emotions is a critical, I repeat a critical, step to becoming Rich, Famous and Happy.
Lesson TWO - EMOTIONS
To be able to travel the road to become Rich, Famous and Happy you need to stay in mentally great shape. Situations are always changing. Nothing is static. Embracing the changes can at times be very challenging. Every feeling you experience is influenced by your thoughts. Your thoughts and feelings are connected. Sometimes the days can "feel" very heavy and your thoughts can drain your energy. Negative thoughts bring negative emotions, positive thoughts bring positive emotions and then there are the dreaded feelings from nowhere. You could be feeling great one minute and the next second something changes and a wave of sadness washes over your whole body and you don't know why.
Conscious and subconscious thoughts affect your feelings and feelings affect your thoughts in an unending cycle. You are not unique. You are not alone. This happens to all of us and, yes, it even happens to the Rich, Famous and Happy people. They just learned how to manage their thoughts and emotions and are able to keep moving forward.
It's too darn hard, if not impossible, to fully control your thoughts and emotions. I do my best and try my hardest to at least manage my thoughts but, please"listen"carefully, "I pal around with and pay more attention to my emotions." I'll explain:
1 - The core emotions are Happiness, Sadness, Surprise, Disgust, Anger and Fear. I see my emotions as my friends. My Buds. Sometimes they act like my Buds on steroids but, my buddies never the less. They are there to keep me safe. There is no such thing as good or bad emotions.
They all have a job to do. We weren't created with built in booby traps.
They are there to protect and support any lifestyle you have chosen to pursue and alert you to any mental or physical changes you may experience. Think, gauges on your cars dashboard.
They're there to warn you, support you and help you ...Period.
2 - I've made a simple distinction in my life about the different emotions. Emotions that make you feel like smiling are telling you that you are on the right road and emotions that make you feel sad or scared are telling you to stop or slow down and beware, a detour or change may be needed. SIMPLE. It is too difficult to be aware of all the conscious thoughts flying around and, oh yeah; those subconscious thoughts are a real walk in the park. I embrace my emotions first. This helps me keep on moving forward until I can capture and decide what to do with my thoughts.
3 - Thoughts affect your emotions and your feelings. When you can capture a thought you have
4 simple options:
A-Treat the thought as family and give it a home.
B-Treat the thought as a guest and only give it a few minutes or a few hours to visit.
C-Treat the thought as an intruder and throw its butt to the curb.
D-lock it in the "closet" until you feel rested or have the time to deal with it.
4-There is only ONE way to manage your emotions and be able to constantly move smoothly towards your goals:
EMBRACE THEM and TALK TO THEM.
When sadness knocks or fear jumps out at you, find a safe place where you can Talk to yourself, Scream, Cry or just fall apart if that's where your session leads you. Think about where you want to classify your thoughts and then start to ask yourself questions. Remember you may also feel sad or scared for no apparent reason.
Questions will set you free. ASK: Emotions, what are you trying to tell me? What am I feeling? I am scared or sad but why? What happened to change my mood? Push and probe until you feel the rush of an emotional volcano.It's an experience you will never forget.
TALK OUT LOUD.
In any case, let your feelings wash over you.
Let the answers to your questions make the tears flow. Tears and talking out loud with yourself will lighten your mental pain. Tears,like laughter, are an emotional release...It is not a sign of weakness.
Tears, Laughter and screams are simply emotional safety valves.
5 - The MAIN POINT... Emotions don't want to live with you. They just want to be heard and know they did their job. Acknowledge them and they move on...And so do you.
Barry Sarner, Mr. Change is Good, is a Serial Entrepreneur and the owner of the Trademarked Slogan "CHANGE IS GOOD".
A Message From Barry...
"Is there one thing that is holding you back from becoming wildly successful and happy? The rich, famous,and happy people know what that is. It's that six letter word that turns most people upside down and inside out...CHANGE...Let's hear about what effect CHANGE has had on your personal or business life and how you came out on top...or not. Let's share our stories, advice and help each other live peacefully with change. LET'S HELP EACH OTHER TO MAKE OUR DREAMS COME TRUE... CHANGE IS GOOD". C'mon people let's form the biggest mastermind group in the world. You can be the one !!! you can make a difference...Help me, Help us..Meet me at my Blog with your stories, advice and inspirational messages.
http://www.changeisgoodusa.comhttp://www.changeisgoodusa.blogspot.com
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This article has been viewed 146 time(s).Article Submitted On: April 28, 2009
By BARRY SARNER
Hi All...
Let's get on with our "magic mystery tour."
Everything that you are or ever will be is the result of how you use your mind. The world you see is simply the result of thought. Magnificent achievements and wondrous Journeys all started with a thought. I'm telling you now that it is a fact, whatever you believe you can achieve. Think you'll fail ? There is a good chance you will...Think you'll succeed? There is a good chance you will. You'll never be wrong.
The above concept has been covered and written about ad nauseum. The phrase, ad nauseum, has been used ad nauseum. The point?... Obviously you must come to accept this concept as a fact. You must think positive thoughts. You must also accept the fact that this is crazy. It's impossible to think positive thoughts all the time. Let's all agree that where you are today, is where you THOUGHT you were supposed to be. You can change your life by changing the way you think. I'm not minimizing the concept at all. I know it to be true. I've been there and done that but...
What about the negative little buggers that creep into your thinking? The ones that make you sad, angry or fearful. Do you close your eyes and start singing Gloria Gaynor's song "I Will Survive? and hope they go away? No, you don't. You work with your emotions and feelings and move forward.
Learning how to manage and be in control of your mind and all your emotions is a critical, I repeat a critical, step to becoming Rich, Famous and Happy.
Lesson TWO - EMOTIONS
To be able to travel the road to become Rich, Famous and Happy you need to stay in mentally great shape. Situations are always changing. Nothing is static. Embracing the changes can at times be very challenging. Every feeling you experience is influenced by your thoughts. Your thoughts and feelings are connected. Sometimes the days can "feel" very heavy and your thoughts can drain your energy. Negative thoughts bring negative emotions, positive thoughts bring positive emotions and then there are the dreaded feelings from nowhere. You could be feeling great one minute and the next second something changes and a wave of sadness washes over your whole body and you don't know why.
Conscious and subconscious thoughts affect your feelings and feelings affect your thoughts in an unending cycle. You are not unique. You are not alone. This happens to all of us and, yes, it even happens to the Rich, Famous and Happy people. They just learned how to manage their thoughts and emotions and are able to keep moving forward.
It's too darn hard, if not impossible, to fully control your thoughts and emotions. I do my best and try my hardest to at least manage my thoughts but, please"listen"carefully, "I pal around with and pay more attention to my emotions." I'll explain:
1 - The core emotions are Happiness, Sadness, Surprise, Disgust, Anger and Fear. I see my emotions as my friends. My Buds. Sometimes they act like my Buds on steroids but, my buddies never the less. They are there to keep me safe. There is no such thing as good or bad emotions.
They all have a job to do. We weren't created with built in booby traps.
They are there to protect and support any lifestyle you have chosen to pursue and alert you to any mental or physical changes you may experience. Think, gauges on your cars dashboard.
They're there to warn you, support you and help you ...Period.
2 - I've made a simple distinction in my life about the different emotions. Emotions that make you feel like smiling are telling you that you are on the right road and emotions that make you feel sad or scared are telling you to stop or slow down and beware, a detour or change may be needed. SIMPLE. It is too difficult to be aware of all the conscious thoughts flying around and, oh yeah; those subconscious thoughts are a real walk in the park. I embrace my emotions first. This helps me keep on moving forward until I can capture and decide what to do with my thoughts.
3 - Thoughts affect your emotions and your feelings. When you can capture a thought you have
4 simple options:
A-Treat the thought as family and give it a home.
B-Treat the thought as a guest and only give it a few minutes or a few hours to visit.
C-Treat the thought as an intruder and throw its butt to the curb.
D-lock it in the "closet" until you feel rested or have the time to deal with it.
4-There is only ONE way to manage your emotions and be able to constantly move smoothly towards your goals:
EMBRACE THEM and TALK TO THEM.
When sadness knocks or fear jumps out at you, find a safe place where you can Talk to yourself, Scream, Cry or just fall apart if that's where your session leads you. Think about where you want to classify your thoughts and then start to ask yourself questions. Remember you may also feel sad or scared for no apparent reason.
Questions will set you free. ASK: Emotions, what are you trying to tell me? What am I feeling? I am scared or sad but why? What happened to change my mood? Push and probe until you feel the rush of an emotional volcano.It's an experience you will never forget.
TALK OUT LOUD.
In any case, let your feelings wash over you.
Let the answers to your questions make the tears flow. Tears and talking out loud with yourself will lighten your mental pain. Tears,like laughter, are an emotional release...It is not a sign of weakness.
Tears, Laughter and screams are simply emotional safety valves.
5 - The MAIN POINT... Emotions don't want to live with you. They just want to be heard and know they did their job. Acknowledge them and they move on...And so do you.
Barry Sarner, Mr. Change is Good, is a Serial Entrepreneur and the owner of the Trademarked Slogan "CHANGE IS GOOD".
A Message From Barry...
"Is there one thing that is holding you back from becoming wildly successful and happy? The rich, famous,and happy people know what that is. It's that six letter word that turns most people upside down and inside out...CHANGE...Let's hear about what effect CHANGE has had on your personal or business life and how you came out on top...or not. Let's share our stories, advice and help each other live peacefully with change. LET'S HELP EACH OTHER TO MAKE OUR DREAMS COME TRUE... CHANGE IS GOOD". C'mon people let's form the biggest mastermind group in the world. You can be the one !!! you can make a difference...Help me, Help us..Meet me at my Blog with your stories, advice and inspirational messages.
http://www.changeisgoodusa.comhttp://www.changeisgoodusa.blogspot.com
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Thursday, May 07, 2009
CHANGE IS GOOD....BALANCE IS NEEDED
Teetering on the Brink of Balance
By Sheryl Turgeon
"The human body is unlimited in potential; it is just a matter of knowing how to access it."
~John Douillard, PhD
As the plane rises in the sky, the attendant explains, "If the oxygen mask drops down, put your own mask on first. Then you may help your children with theirs." That statement has become quite profound to me. As I am learning with my clients, we can't really help others when our own lives are too frenetic, chaotic, overburdened, or stressed.
As women, we have been taught to be "good girls" and make sure others' needs are satisfied before our own. It is a message that translates into ignoring fatigue, saying "yes" when we mean "no," keeping silent when slighted so we don't offend others, and slipping into roles that never quite fit us. Many of us feel so much guilt or anxiety when we try to break free of the dictates of our culture, that we simply find it "easier" to keep being good.
The prescriptions for healthy living abound in our women's magazines-get regular exercise, sleep eight hours, eat a well-balanced diet, maintain close relationships, drink plenty of water, think positive thoughts, find work you like...Each recommendation is perfectly valid and helpful, but without attending to our core values, needs, and desires, they seem like empty platitudes.
I have seen clients blossom when they learn to love and treat themselves well. Sometimes they make drastic changes to honor their authentic selves. Other times, it just requires enough support from outside, that they learn to recognize how to treat themselves with the same gentle care.
Creating balance in our lives is not an overnight phenomenon. We need to feel well enough in the first place to have the strength to make changes. As a health and nutritional counselor, I have experienced firsthand that we are what we eat. We need to treat our bodies with love and respect by eating whole, fresh foods and cutting down on the caffeine and sugar to start feeling healthy again.
The next step, fresh air and exercise, raises our endorphins, gets our blood flowing and our heart beating. Fresh, pure water cleanses out the toxins and keeps us well hydrated. Now we can get busy on who we are and what gives us joy.
Change happens in baby steps. Maybe we buy ourselves fresh flowers one day. The next day we say "yes" to a yoga class. Day three we leave work early and get a massage. Day four may be calling a friend and delaying dinner for 20 minutes. I'm sure you get the idea. Just implement one new self-love activity per day for a week and see how you feel. You might make some notes in a journal as part of your experiment. Eventually, you will be saying "no" to someone when you feel too tired to take on one more thing. You will realize when you are feeling anxious and slow down to take a few deep breaths.
The practice of listening to ourselves, hearing what we need and then acting upon it brings us into balance. The more we practice, the better life gets. Try it!
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Sheryl_Turgeon
By Sheryl Turgeon
"The human body is unlimited in potential; it is just a matter of knowing how to access it."
~John Douillard, PhD
As the plane rises in the sky, the attendant explains, "If the oxygen mask drops down, put your own mask on first. Then you may help your children with theirs." That statement has become quite profound to me. As I am learning with my clients, we can't really help others when our own lives are too frenetic, chaotic, overburdened, or stressed.
As women, we have been taught to be "good girls" and make sure others' needs are satisfied before our own. It is a message that translates into ignoring fatigue, saying "yes" when we mean "no," keeping silent when slighted so we don't offend others, and slipping into roles that never quite fit us. Many of us feel so much guilt or anxiety when we try to break free of the dictates of our culture, that we simply find it "easier" to keep being good.
The prescriptions for healthy living abound in our women's magazines-get regular exercise, sleep eight hours, eat a well-balanced diet, maintain close relationships, drink plenty of water, think positive thoughts, find work you like...Each recommendation is perfectly valid and helpful, but without attending to our core values, needs, and desires, they seem like empty platitudes.
I have seen clients blossom when they learn to love and treat themselves well. Sometimes they make drastic changes to honor their authentic selves. Other times, it just requires enough support from outside, that they learn to recognize how to treat themselves with the same gentle care.
Creating balance in our lives is not an overnight phenomenon. We need to feel well enough in the first place to have the strength to make changes. As a health and nutritional counselor, I have experienced firsthand that we are what we eat. We need to treat our bodies with love and respect by eating whole, fresh foods and cutting down on the caffeine and sugar to start feeling healthy again.
The next step, fresh air and exercise, raises our endorphins, gets our blood flowing and our heart beating. Fresh, pure water cleanses out the toxins and keeps us well hydrated. Now we can get busy on who we are and what gives us joy.
Change happens in baby steps. Maybe we buy ourselves fresh flowers one day. The next day we say "yes" to a yoga class. Day three we leave work early and get a massage. Day four may be calling a friend and delaying dinner for 20 minutes. I'm sure you get the idea. Just implement one new self-love activity per day for a week and see how you feel. You might make some notes in a journal as part of your experiment. Eventually, you will be saying "no" to someone when you feel too tired to take on one more thing. You will realize when you are feeling anxious and slow down to take a few deep breaths.
The practice of listening to ourselves, hearing what we need and then acting upon it brings us into balance. The more we practice, the better life gets. Try it!
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Sheryl_Turgeon
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
CHANGE IS GOOD.....IT'S EASY
IT'S EASY TO BECOME RICH,FAMOUS AND HAPPY....Lesson ONE
BY BARRY SARNER
Ok, so I got your attention....."Listen" carefully and change your life.
I truly mean it when I say it's easy.
FIRST LESSON
I like to compare the process of working towards getting Rich, Famous and Happy to going to the gym to work out and exercise. Exercise for me is painful and hard. It is not crippling but the process is uncomfortable and it's so mentally difficult for me to wrap my mind around it. I throw myself and drive myself crazy up until I get started. On the other hand... I know I want to do it and I feel great after I do it because I want to look and feel good. It's the best feeling in the world when I get through it. I now changed my thinking. I like it, not love it yet, because I focus more on the end result and this helps me "like" and enjoy the process that much better. How bad do you want it? That's the question.
Get it? It's easy but not easy. It is what it is!!! But it's worth it.
So what makes it so difficult to achieve these three wonderful goals? Remember I say "difficult but not impossible." What is it?
CHANGE, CHANGE, CHANGE
Change is coming and it will be joyful or it will be painful or it will be both. Fight it and make yourself crazy or embrace it and become Rich, Famous, and Happy. Do it Easy or Do it Hard. Your choice...
Are you ready to join me on my "Magical Mystery Tour" of how to embrace change and then go on to become Rich, Famous and Happy? If not, stop now and go to the gym. Everybody else follow me...
All the positive thinking books and the esteemed geniuses who write them never ever discuss the strongest and the most important step to getting through Change and moving on to get what you want in life. Every morning you wake up to a brand new day. Every minute of your day things are moving and changing. Nothing is static. You must be aware of everything going on around you and next to you. You must be aware of the subtle as well as the obvious changes that are flowing constantly.
You must be aware of your REALITY. I repeat, Your Reality.
The first step is "Accepting Reality". Your Reality. Your world. What are your facts and what are your truths? What's real and what's ego, fantasy or misinformation.
A friend of mine was recently stopped as he exited a major supermarket. He was detained (and let go) for taking and eating loose candy from the bins where you buy candy by the pound. His reality was he didn't do anything wrong because "he only had a few." The security guard's reality was that "he's a thief." The store's reality was that they never detained or prosecuted anyone ever for this. They actually apologized to him.
Reality is different for everyone and then, there is the Real Reality. You have to get yours very clear and under control. You must take control of what's real for you. To do that you must shake up your thoughts and your beliefs. Question everything and write down your answers.
Can I achieve my dream? What do I need to achieve my dreams? What personal qualities do I need to be successful? What are my strengths and weaknesses? Who, what, where, why, when and how over and over again.
These and many, many more questions will set you on the right road to success. The important thing is to ask the questions. Make them personal. Dig deep. Accumulate all the information on YOURSELF that you possibly can. Don't even think about your next move until you could really look your total reality in the "eye." If you get frustrated, pissed off and tears sneak out from time to time that's your signal that you're doing it right.
Enlist the help of supportive friends that you trust. Scour and search the internet for information on the road you want to travel and what you would need to do it. Questions will set you free. The answers are for you. You never have to share the answers with anyone.
You can't spend too much time on your reality search.
When you could say things like "I am good at this and not good at that." "I need more of this and less of that" and "I need more help there and I could use less here" then you're on your way to making your dreams come true.
Be hard on yourself and then give yourself a big hug and a round of applause for being brave and taking the most important step on your journey to becoming Rich, Famous and Happy.
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
Barry Sarner, Mr. Change is Good, is a Serial Entrepreneur and the owner of the Trademarked Slogan "CHANGE IS GOOD".
A Message From Barry... "Is there one thing that is holding you back from becoming wildly successful and happy? The rich, famous,and happy people know what that is. It's that six letter word that turns most people upside down and inside out...CHANGE...Let's hear about what effect CHANGE has had on your personal or business life and how you came out on top...or not. Let's share our stories, advice and help each other live peacefully with change. LET'S HELP EACH OTHER TO MAKE OUR DREAMS COME TRUE... CHANGE IS GOOD". C'mon people let's form the biggest mastermind group in the world. You can be the one !!! you can make a difference...Help me, Help us..Meet me at my Blog with your stories, advice and inspirational messages. http://www.changeisgoodusa.com/ http://www.changeisgoodusa.blogspot.com/
BY BARRY SARNER
Ok, so I got your attention....."Listen" carefully and change your life.
I truly mean it when I say it's easy.
FIRST LESSON
I like to compare the process of working towards getting Rich, Famous and Happy to going to the gym to work out and exercise. Exercise for me is painful and hard. It is not crippling but the process is uncomfortable and it's so mentally difficult for me to wrap my mind around it. I throw myself and drive myself crazy up until I get started. On the other hand... I know I want to do it and I feel great after I do it because I want to look and feel good. It's the best feeling in the world when I get through it. I now changed my thinking. I like it, not love it yet, because I focus more on the end result and this helps me "like" and enjoy the process that much better. How bad do you want it? That's the question.
Get it? It's easy but not easy. It is what it is!!! But it's worth it.
So what makes it so difficult to achieve these three wonderful goals? Remember I say "difficult but not impossible." What is it?
CHANGE, CHANGE, CHANGE
Change is coming and it will be joyful or it will be painful or it will be both. Fight it and make yourself crazy or embrace it and become Rich, Famous, and Happy. Do it Easy or Do it Hard. Your choice...
Are you ready to join me on my "Magical Mystery Tour" of how to embrace change and then go on to become Rich, Famous and Happy? If not, stop now and go to the gym. Everybody else follow me...
All the positive thinking books and the esteemed geniuses who write them never ever discuss the strongest and the most important step to getting through Change and moving on to get what you want in life. Every morning you wake up to a brand new day. Every minute of your day things are moving and changing. Nothing is static. You must be aware of everything going on around you and next to you. You must be aware of the subtle as well as the obvious changes that are flowing constantly.
You must be aware of your REALITY. I repeat, Your Reality.
The first step is "Accepting Reality". Your Reality. Your world. What are your facts and what are your truths? What's real and what's ego, fantasy or misinformation.
A friend of mine was recently stopped as he exited a major supermarket. He was detained (and let go) for taking and eating loose candy from the bins where you buy candy by the pound. His reality was he didn't do anything wrong because "he only had a few." The security guard's reality was that "he's a thief." The store's reality was that they never detained or prosecuted anyone ever for this. They actually apologized to him.
Reality is different for everyone and then, there is the Real Reality. You have to get yours very clear and under control. You must take control of what's real for you. To do that you must shake up your thoughts and your beliefs. Question everything and write down your answers.
Can I achieve my dream? What do I need to achieve my dreams? What personal qualities do I need to be successful? What are my strengths and weaknesses? Who, what, where, why, when and how over and over again.
These and many, many more questions will set you on the right road to success. The important thing is to ask the questions. Make them personal. Dig deep. Accumulate all the information on YOURSELF that you possibly can. Don't even think about your next move until you could really look your total reality in the "eye." If you get frustrated, pissed off and tears sneak out from time to time that's your signal that you're doing it right.
Enlist the help of supportive friends that you trust. Scour and search the internet for information on the road you want to travel and what you would need to do it. Questions will set you free. The answers are for you. You never have to share the answers with anyone.
You can't spend too much time on your reality search.
When you could say things like "I am good at this and not good at that." "I need more of this and less of that" and "I need more help there and I could use less here" then you're on your way to making your dreams come true.
Be hard on yourself and then give yourself a big hug and a round of applause for being brave and taking the most important step on your journey to becoming Rich, Famous and Happy.
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
Barry Sarner, Mr. Change is Good, is a Serial Entrepreneur and the owner of the Trademarked Slogan "CHANGE IS GOOD".
A Message From Barry... "Is there one thing that is holding you back from becoming wildly successful and happy? The rich, famous,and happy people know what that is. It's that six letter word that turns most people upside down and inside out...CHANGE...Let's hear about what effect CHANGE has had on your personal or business life and how you came out on top...or not. Let's share our stories, advice and help each other live peacefully with change. LET'S HELP EACH OTHER TO MAKE OUR DREAMS COME TRUE... CHANGE IS GOOD". C'mon people let's form the biggest mastermind group in the world. You can be the one !!! you can make a difference...Help me, Help us..Meet me at my Blog with your stories, advice and inspirational messages. http://www.changeisgoodusa.com/ http://www.changeisgoodusa.blogspot.com/
Friday, April 24, 2009
CHANGE IS GOOD.....GO HUG YOURSELF
What is Self-Love? It's You Being Compassionate to You
By Annette Colby
Annette ColbyLevel: PlatinumAnnette Colby, Ph.D. R.D., is… an enthusiastic lover of this extraordinary adventure of life (including all the bumps, bruises, detours, and unexpected discoveries), married to ... ...
If someone were to ask me, "What is self-love?" I would reply, "A growing ability to be true and compassionate to yourself. For it is only when you are filled with the love of who you are that you can share this gift with the world."
To be true to ourselves is a lifetime journey of self-discovery and self-acceptance. It is building on our unique gifts and interests, while accepting without shame our weaker aspects.
When two people enter into marriage, they often share the familiar vow, "I take you to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, to live and cherish: from this day forward." This vow takes into account that life is... well, life. It is a journey of varied experience. Self-love is the ability to provide this same promise to not abandon ourselves when times are difficult.
Self-love involves a daily cultivation of a truly satisfying, fulfilling, and rewarding relationship with yourself. The result of self-love is not a perfect life, unending happiness, or the creation of the perfect human persona that everyone accepts, admires, and validates. Instead, self-love is the ability to summon a compassionate feeling into yourself no matter what you experience in life.
Connection with Self How do we do tap into inner compassion and love during those times that are worse, poorer, and sicker? In part, loving yourself includes tending to fundamental needs such as physical movement, eating, sleep, and self-care. It is self-loving to get a massage, light some candles, or take a bubble bath. However, self-love is something much grander.
When our actions are motivated by fear, by what we "should" be doing, or our intent is to control, our wounded self is in charge. This type of behavior is not so much self-love as it is survival. Self-love is the ability to stop, take a deep conscious breath, and move beyond a habitual reaction. Breathing brings us back into center where we can connect with who we are beyond our wounds and automatic responses.
Self-love is the ability to pay attention to intuition, follow the voice of our heart, and honestly give expression to our true feelings. Self-love is a minute-by-minute awareness of our inner wisdom combined with self-permission to respond accordingly. It is about saying "no" to those actions, behaviors, and routines that feel unsatisfying on the inside, and saying "yes" to what is gratifying and fulfilling.
In essence, self-love includes intentionally focusing energy on actions and behaviors that warm the heart, please the senses, and allow life to flow through your physical self. Self-love brings you back into your body, and back into feeling and breathing and sensing. It is offering yourself compassion for the experience you are having while also being aware of the actions that would best offer nurture and support your mind, body, emotions, and spirit.
What is the Most Self-Loving Action in this Moment? Self-love increases when we stop, take a moment to consciously breathe, and feel our way through these questions:
Am I treating myself fairly?
Am I treating myself with respect?
Am I treating myself with kindness?
Am I paying attention to what I need and want?
What are my needs during this situation or circumstance?
Can I allow myself to feel into a positive outcome to this experience?
Do I speak to myself with compassion?
The journey of self-love is ever unfolding and ever expanding. As you listen to your spirit, also known as your heart, intuition, knowingness, true feelings, or gut sense, you offer yourself respect. As you take action to express your inner self... that's self-love in motion. And further down the road, as you evolve into the person that does not need to be understood by everyone...that is the embodiment of self-love.
You do not need to go through life exhausted, depressed, stressed, or overweight! Imagine waking up each morning with joy and positive energy that lasts throughout the day! Subscribe to our wonderful free weekly Loving Miracles newsletter at http://www.AnnetteColby.com
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By Annette Colby
Annette ColbyLevel: PlatinumAnnette Colby, Ph.D. R.D., is… an enthusiastic lover of this extraordinary adventure of life (including all the bumps, bruises, detours, and unexpected discoveries), married to ... ...
If someone were to ask me, "What is self-love?" I would reply, "A growing ability to be true and compassionate to yourself. For it is only when you are filled with the love of who you are that you can share this gift with the world."
To be true to ourselves is a lifetime journey of self-discovery and self-acceptance. It is building on our unique gifts and interests, while accepting without shame our weaker aspects.
When two people enter into marriage, they often share the familiar vow, "I take you to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, to live and cherish: from this day forward." This vow takes into account that life is... well, life. It is a journey of varied experience. Self-love is the ability to provide this same promise to not abandon ourselves when times are difficult.
Self-love involves a daily cultivation of a truly satisfying, fulfilling, and rewarding relationship with yourself. The result of self-love is not a perfect life, unending happiness, or the creation of the perfect human persona that everyone accepts, admires, and validates. Instead, self-love is the ability to summon a compassionate feeling into yourself no matter what you experience in life.
Connection with Self How do we do tap into inner compassion and love during those times that are worse, poorer, and sicker? In part, loving yourself includes tending to fundamental needs such as physical movement, eating, sleep, and self-care. It is self-loving to get a massage, light some candles, or take a bubble bath. However, self-love is something much grander.
When our actions are motivated by fear, by what we "should" be doing, or our intent is to control, our wounded self is in charge. This type of behavior is not so much self-love as it is survival. Self-love is the ability to stop, take a deep conscious breath, and move beyond a habitual reaction. Breathing brings us back into center where we can connect with who we are beyond our wounds and automatic responses.
Self-love is the ability to pay attention to intuition, follow the voice of our heart, and honestly give expression to our true feelings. Self-love is a minute-by-minute awareness of our inner wisdom combined with self-permission to respond accordingly. It is about saying "no" to those actions, behaviors, and routines that feel unsatisfying on the inside, and saying "yes" to what is gratifying and fulfilling.
In essence, self-love includes intentionally focusing energy on actions and behaviors that warm the heart, please the senses, and allow life to flow through your physical self. Self-love brings you back into your body, and back into feeling and breathing and sensing. It is offering yourself compassion for the experience you are having while also being aware of the actions that would best offer nurture and support your mind, body, emotions, and spirit.
What is the Most Self-Loving Action in this Moment? Self-love increases when we stop, take a moment to consciously breathe, and feel our way through these questions:
Am I treating myself fairly?
Am I treating myself with respect?
Am I treating myself with kindness?
Am I paying attention to what I need and want?
What are my needs during this situation or circumstance?
Can I allow myself to feel into a positive outcome to this experience?
Do I speak to myself with compassion?
The journey of self-love is ever unfolding and ever expanding. As you listen to your spirit, also known as your heart, intuition, knowingness, true feelings, or gut sense, you offer yourself respect. As you take action to express your inner self... that's self-love in motion. And further down the road, as you evolve into the person that does not need to be understood by everyone...that is the embodiment of self-love.
You do not need to go through life exhausted, depressed, stressed, or overweight! Imagine waking up each morning with joy and positive energy that lasts throughout the day! Subscribe to our wonderful free weekly Loving Miracles newsletter at http://www.AnnetteColby.com
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Tuesday, April 14, 2009
CHANGE IS GOOD.....WHAT A DIFFERENCE A DAY MAKES
Work Like Thomas Edison and Become Famous by Morning
By Mark A. Lewis
Thomas Edison was an American inventor and businessman who developed many devices that greatly influenced life around the world.
He had strong values and opinions and was often quoted for such. These quotes contain pearls of his wisdom that can inspire and guide us in pursuit of our goals.
Let's take a look at how the philosophy of Thomas Edison might apply for us today.
Edison set up an industrial research lab and drove his staff to produce results. He had a specific purpose of producing constant technological innovation and improvement.
He would have no time for 'pretenders' as the following suggests:
"Being busy does not always mean real work... Seeming to do is not doing."
He was also known to have said that genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration. Many, many people can have great ideas, but the successful ones are those that strive to have them fulfilled.
You can dream it and perceive it, but unless you strive to fulfill it, what have you achieved? It's unavoidable but, there is some effort and work required.
And for those who fear or avoid having to work for a successful outcome Edison has been known to say that the reason a lot of people do not recognize opportunity is because it usually goes around wearing overalls looking like hard work.
And how did Thomas Edison stick to this work ethic? To him it was fun, his greatest pleasure, and so his reward was often found in the work that precedes what the world calls success.
Imagine never doing a day's work if to you it is all fun.
An interesting side to Edison was his understanding of the cosmic forces affecting all of us. Truly creative and successful people know that there are universal laws in place to govern and guide our paths.
Edison knew that this world is ruled by infinite intelligence. Everything that surrounds us- everything that exists - proves that there are infinite laws behind it.
I also suspect that Thomas Edison used meditative practices as his best thinking has said to be done in solitude.
Whether being a time of meditation or visualization, taking time out to return your mind and body to a state of calmness and inner peace will give you answers that you seek.
Persistence:
So when do you know enough is enough?
You really don't, but as Thomas Edison will tell you, keep forging ahead. He knew that many of life's failures came from people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
The easiest thing to do is to get discouraged when things look impossible. Thomas Edison knew that's not the place to become discouraged.
Putting his total efforts into the right perspective, Edison said probably his most famous words:
"I have not failed. I've just found 1,000 ways that won't work."
Thomas Edison worked knowing that above all, what you do and achieve should be a positive reflection of your inner goodness. Or in other words, you reap what you sow because "The value of an idea lies in the using of it... What you are will show in what you do."
And to sum it all up, in working on instinct and your gut feeling you can always go with:
"Hell, there are no rules here - we're trying to accomplish something."
So with the inspiration of Thomas Edison behind you say "to hell with the rules" as you strive to be Famous By Morning!
Mark Lewis is the owner of KMS Productions and webmaster at http://www.famousbymorning.com - A site for quality online videos that value the essence of the story... and loves a challenge!
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Mark_A._Lewis
By Mark A. Lewis
Thomas Edison was an American inventor and businessman who developed many devices that greatly influenced life around the world.
He had strong values and opinions and was often quoted for such. These quotes contain pearls of his wisdom that can inspire and guide us in pursuit of our goals.
Let's take a look at how the philosophy of Thomas Edison might apply for us today.
Edison set up an industrial research lab and drove his staff to produce results. He had a specific purpose of producing constant technological innovation and improvement.
He would have no time for 'pretenders' as the following suggests:
"Being busy does not always mean real work... Seeming to do is not doing."
He was also known to have said that genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration. Many, many people can have great ideas, but the successful ones are those that strive to have them fulfilled.
You can dream it and perceive it, but unless you strive to fulfill it, what have you achieved? It's unavoidable but, there is some effort and work required.
And for those who fear or avoid having to work for a successful outcome Edison has been known to say that the reason a lot of people do not recognize opportunity is because it usually goes around wearing overalls looking like hard work.
And how did Thomas Edison stick to this work ethic? To him it was fun, his greatest pleasure, and so his reward was often found in the work that precedes what the world calls success.
Imagine never doing a day's work if to you it is all fun.
An interesting side to Edison was his understanding of the cosmic forces affecting all of us. Truly creative and successful people know that there are universal laws in place to govern and guide our paths.
Edison knew that this world is ruled by infinite intelligence. Everything that surrounds us- everything that exists - proves that there are infinite laws behind it.
I also suspect that Thomas Edison used meditative practices as his best thinking has said to be done in solitude.
Whether being a time of meditation or visualization, taking time out to return your mind and body to a state of calmness and inner peace will give you answers that you seek.
Persistence:
So when do you know enough is enough?
You really don't, but as Thomas Edison will tell you, keep forging ahead. He knew that many of life's failures came from people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
The easiest thing to do is to get discouraged when things look impossible. Thomas Edison knew that's not the place to become discouraged.
Putting his total efforts into the right perspective, Edison said probably his most famous words:
"I have not failed. I've just found 1,000 ways that won't work."
Thomas Edison worked knowing that above all, what you do and achieve should be a positive reflection of your inner goodness. Or in other words, you reap what you sow because "The value of an idea lies in the using of it... What you are will show in what you do."
And to sum it all up, in working on instinct and your gut feeling you can always go with:
"Hell, there are no rules here - we're trying to accomplish something."
So with the inspiration of Thomas Edison behind you say "to hell with the rules" as you strive to be Famous By Morning!
Mark Lewis is the owner of KMS Productions and webmaster at http://www.famousbymorning.com - A site for quality online videos that value the essence of the story... and loves a challenge!
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Mark_A._Lewis
Tuesday, April 07, 2009
CHANGE IS GOOD......GO BE A FOOL,FOOL !!!!!
In Celebration of Foolishness - Every Hero Begins As Fool
By Tama J. Kieves
In celebration of April Fool's Day and of all Spring's new beginnings, I wanted to encourage you to be a little bit more "foolish" in your life. There is power in daring to be different.
Great advances have never come from the conventionally minded among us. It's always comes from us idiots who believe in love and freedom and goodness and peace. The fools of today are the visionaries of tomorrow. Those crazy fools of the past gave us electricity, medicine, automobiles, a few trips to the moon and back, not to mention hair dye and microwave dinners. God bless them all. Can you imagine the Wright brothers thinking they could snub the laws of gravity and fly? Think about it. Many of us cower and shrink thinking we're idiots for believing we can write a screenplay that sells.
Fools dare to be alive, even on a Monday. Fools dare to take off their shoes, turn off the computer and walk outside into the sun. They know the power, healing, and strength of having fun. Fools dare to take off their thinking cap and try on their feelings fedora.
Fools dare to try new things and do them badly. Fools dare to rest when they are tired. Fools dare to sing off key and they dare to sing on key in a voice that melts all separation. Fools dare to wander down interesting paths in their lives, take scenic routes and detours and stuff their bursting satchels with jewels. Fools dare to step into the river beyond the concrete structures of "how it's always been done," and allow themselves to be carried onto new and holy ground.
Prudence and conservatism have not advanced our culture. It took the voices on the outskirts to make a noise that changed the world. It's taken a handful of rabble rousers to vote for women's rights, freedom from slavery, and to oppose war, hunger, and hatred. It takes fools to raise awareness and fools to raise the bar. It takes fools to stir the hearts of mankind into becoming the great lovers and leaders we are meant to be. Every time we watch the Academy Awards or the Olympics, I think of all the "foolish dreamers" involved who believed they had something in them that deserved commitment, development, and a jostling chance. Every hero begins as fool.
So dare the ridicule of the narrow-minded and dim-sighted. Dare to still believe. Dare to feel. Dare to trust your guiding light. Dare to ignore gravity and take flight. Dare to be a hero. Dare to be a fool.
Copyright 2009 Tama J. Kieves. All rights reserved.
Tama J. Kieves is the best-selling author of THIS TIME I DANCE! Creating the Work You Love/How One Harvard Lawyer Left It All to Have It All! She is also a sought-after speaker and career coach who has helped thousands world-wide to discover and live their creative dreams. Learn more about Tama's workshops and coaching or sign up to receive FREE monthly inspiration and tools for your creative life journey at http://www.AwakeningArtistry.com Download her free report on "Finding Your Calling Now" at http://www.AwakeningArtistry.com
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By Tama J. Kieves
In celebration of April Fool's Day and of all Spring's new beginnings, I wanted to encourage you to be a little bit more "foolish" in your life. There is power in daring to be different.
Great advances have never come from the conventionally minded among us. It's always comes from us idiots who believe in love and freedom and goodness and peace. The fools of today are the visionaries of tomorrow. Those crazy fools of the past gave us electricity, medicine, automobiles, a few trips to the moon and back, not to mention hair dye and microwave dinners. God bless them all. Can you imagine the Wright brothers thinking they could snub the laws of gravity and fly? Think about it. Many of us cower and shrink thinking we're idiots for believing we can write a screenplay that sells.
Fools dare to be alive, even on a Monday. Fools dare to take off their shoes, turn off the computer and walk outside into the sun. They know the power, healing, and strength of having fun. Fools dare to take off their thinking cap and try on their feelings fedora.
Fools dare to try new things and do them badly. Fools dare to rest when they are tired. Fools dare to sing off key and they dare to sing on key in a voice that melts all separation. Fools dare to wander down interesting paths in their lives, take scenic routes and detours and stuff their bursting satchels with jewels. Fools dare to step into the river beyond the concrete structures of "how it's always been done," and allow themselves to be carried onto new and holy ground.
Prudence and conservatism have not advanced our culture. It took the voices on the outskirts to make a noise that changed the world. It's taken a handful of rabble rousers to vote for women's rights, freedom from slavery, and to oppose war, hunger, and hatred. It takes fools to raise awareness and fools to raise the bar. It takes fools to stir the hearts of mankind into becoming the great lovers and leaders we are meant to be. Every time we watch the Academy Awards or the Olympics, I think of all the "foolish dreamers" involved who believed they had something in them that deserved commitment, development, and a jostling chance. Every hero begins as fool.
So dare the ridicule of the narrow-minded and dim-sighted. Dare to still believe. Dare to feel. Dare to trust your guiding light. Dare to ignore gravity and take flight. Dare to be a hero. Dare to be a fool.
Copyright 2009 Tama J. Kieves. All rights reserved.
Tama J. Kieves is the best-selling author of THIS TIME I DANCE! Creating the Work You Love/How One Harvard Lawyer Left It All to Have It All! She is also a sought-after speaker and career coach who has helped thousands world-wide to discover and live their creative dreams. Learn more about Tama's workshops and coaching or sign up to receive FREE monthly inspiration and tools for your creative life journey at http://www.AwakeningArtistry.com Download her free report on "Finding Your Calling Now" at http://www.AwakeningArtistry.com
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Wednesday, April 01, 2009
CHANGE IS GOOD.....LIFE IS TOUGH BUT SO WHAT!!!
Overcoming Adversity - How to Thrive in Any Difficult Situation
By Miki Strong
So, you've been thinking your life is a mess! It's not. It certainly feels like it is, but it's really just in a state of restructure and re-adjustment. You're feeling like everything is falling apart because that's the feedback you're getting from the actions you've taken in your life...to this point. Simply put, you're being told you're on the wrong path.
Here's the thing....what you've been doing, isn't working.
What's Really Going On?
Understanding what adversity means actually helps you deal with it better. Have you ever heard people say, "If I just knew what was going to happen (keeping your job vs being let go), I could deal with it much better." You may not know the outcome of a situation, and not knowing is certainly the cause of much unnecessary stress, but understanding the reason or cause of a situation WILL open the door to your answers.
Adversity comes into our lives as feedback that you're on the wrong path - your decisions, your choices, your actions, your behaviors.
How Can I Use This Knowledge to My Advantage?
The most common type of adversity, is the one you experience when you're on the wrong path. This happens when your choices, your actions and your behaviors are different from what would better serve you to get what you want.
Brian had made it a habit to put away 10% of his income away until he had a nest egg equal to 6 months living expenses. This is a sound principle his father had taught him. However, when a great deal came up on a boat he wanted to buy, he dipped into his reserve fund and purchased it. Him and his wife had great jobs and life was good. He told himself he could build up the fund at a later time. As time went on, the cost to run and maintain the boat became greater and greater and he started charging on his credit cards. Then he lost his job when his company downsized. This was his first message to make changes. As his stress grew, he charged even more on his credit cards. Eventually, his debt was unmanageable, their savings were gone, and his relationship with his wife was suffering. He wasn't paying attention to the feedback in his life.
Brian woke up to the message that his choices, actions and behaviors were not getting him closer to the financial independence and stability he wanted. He made some changes and started paying attention to his feedback. Now he has a new job - better pay, better work, better hours. He managed to keep his home and improve his relationship with his wife. Brian attributes this turn around in his life to becoming aware of the messages he receives - the feedback - and taking right action for different results. The boat? Well, he sold that, put the proceeds in his reserve account, and set a goal to buy a sail boat in the next 10 years - one that both he and his wife will enjoy and fits in his financial plan.
How Do I Overcome the Adversity in My Life?
Understand that adversity will always be a part of your life. You can choose to allow it to help you learn and grow, or let it stop you from living the life that you want. It takes courage and the belief that anything placed in your path can be overcome. You can! You just need to believe it.
Here are some steps to take when you find yourself confronting adversity.
Acknowledge the adversity. Sweeping adversity of any kind under the carpet just means you'll be dealing with a bigger mess in the future. Acknowledge it's something you have to deal with now. - Take responsibility. This one change in mindset will naturally put your subconscious mind into solution mode. If you're open to solutions, you're not brooding about the problem. - Brainstorm. Make a list of everything you can think of that you can do to overcome the adversity. Write down anything that comes to mind, however silly it may seem. By taking a solution approach, you're telling your subconscious mind that you are open to possibilities that you haven't considered. Please note - this exercise isn't meant for you to come up with the definitive solution. It's an exercise in mindset shifting. - Take Action. Take any one item from your list and act on it now. If that means making a phone call for more information, do it. It may also mean asking someone else for help. Whatever it is, taking action sends a message to your subconscious mind that says you're in solution mode and ready to overcome this adversity. - Listen to your intuition. Your subconscious mind knows you're serious about finding a solution that moves you past this adversity. It will go to work on possibilities that you may not have readily thought of.
Be open to your intuitive nudges - that unscheduled stop on the way home from work, that phone call to an associate you haven't talked to in some time, buying that new book a friend just told you about. These are messages pointing you in the right direction. - Trust and believe. This is the hardest part for many people. You would think it's coded in our DNA to worry over things and create stress in our lives. We know it to be a learned behavior - this means it can be unlearned, or rather swapped with trust and belief. Trust that your answers will come and be open to receiving them. Believe that all that is happening in your life, good and not so good, is there to serve you. That means that all is well, all is as it should be. - Give thanks. When times are particularly rough for us, it's hardest to express gratitude for the blessings in our lives. Often, it's because we're focusing on all the negative things. Turn your focus to what you genuinely feel grateful for - your family, a warm house, food on the table, your friends, your pets - you get the picture. Gratitude is a powerful force that when practiced daily, from the heart, has the power to bring miracles into your life.
All the adversity we experience is here to help us learn and grow, and most importantly, to become the person who we want to be, doing the things we love to do, having the things and experiences as a result of who we've become. This is the path in life for every one of us. Awareness of the meaning of adversity opens up the tool box of solutions to overcome them. You're humbled when you break through the barrier of adversity because you see the simplicity of the lesson learned and what a gift it has been to have experienced it.
A Message from Miki Strong, Founder of Mi Hamba:Each and everyone of us has the potential to live an extraordinary life. Discovering our purpose can unlock the door to it being a happy and fulfilling one. Many people ask us how to go about doing just that. They're unhappy, overworked, stressed and want to live their dreams - at the same time they often think it's not possible. At Mi Hamba we excel at showing you how to unlock that door and discover your own potential.
Get access to FREE success resources when you visit us.
Miki StrongFounder, Mi Hambahttp://www.mihamba.comhttp://www.mihambablog.com
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Miki_Strong
By Miki Strong
So, you've been thinking your life is a mess! It's not. It certainly feels like it is, but it's really just in a state of restructure and re-adjustment. You're feeling like everything is falling apart because that's the feedback you're getting from the actions you've taken in your life...to this point. Simply put, you're being told you're on the wrong path.
Here's the thing....what you've been doing, isn't working.
What's Really Going On?
Understanding what adversity means actually helps you deal with it better. Have you ever heard people say, "If I just knew what was going to happen (keeping your job vs being let go), I could deal with it much better." You may not know the outcome of a situation, and not knowing is certainly the cause of much unnecessary stress, but understanding the reason or cause of a situation WILL open the door to your answers.
Adversity comes into our lives as feedback that you're on the wrong path - your decisions, your choices, your actions, your behaviors.
How Can I Use This Knowledge to My Advantage?
The most common type of adversity, is the one you experience when you're on the wrong path. This happens when your choices, your actions and your behaviors are different from what would better serve you to get what you want.
Brian had made it a habit to put away 10% of his income away until he had a nest egg equal to 6 months living expenses. This is a sound principle his father had taught him. However, when a great deal came up on a boat he wanted to buy, he dipped into his reserve fund and purchased it. Him and his wife had great jobs and life was good. He told himself he could build up the fund at a later time. As time went on, the cost to run and maintain the boat became greater and greater and he started charging on his credit cards. Then he lost his job when his company downsized. This was his first message to make changes. As his stress grew, he charged even more on his credit cards. Eventually, his debt was unmanageable, their savings were gone, and his relationship with his wife was suffering. He wasn't paying attention to the feedback in his life.
Brian woke up to the message that his choices, actions and behaviors were not getting him closer to the financial independence and stability he wanted. He made some changes and started paying attention to his feedback. Now he has a new job - better pay, better work, better hours. He managed to keep his home and improve his relationship with his wife. Brian attributes this turn around in his life to becoming aware of the messages he receives - the feedback - and taking right action for different results. The boat? Well, he sold that, put the proceeds in his reserve account, and set a goal to buy a sail boat in the next 10 years - one that both he and his wife will enjoy and fits in his financial plan.
How Do I Overcome the Adversity in My Life?
Understand that adversity will always be a part of your life. You can choose to allow it to help you learn and grow, or let it stop you from living the life that you want. It takes courage and the belief that anything placed in your path can be overcome. You can! You just need to believe it.
Here are some steps to take when you find yourself confronting adversity.
Acknowledge the adversity. Sweeping adversity of any kind under the carpet just means you'll be dealing with a bigger mess in the future. Acknowledge it's something you have to deal with now. - Take responsibility. This one change in mindset will naturally put your subconscious mind into solution mode. If you're open to solutions, you're not brooding about the problem. - Brainstorm. Make a list of everything you can think of that you can do to overcome the adversity. Write down anything that comes to mind, however silly it may seem. By taking a solution approach, you're telling your subconscious mind that you are open to possibilities that you haven't considered. Please note - this exercise isn't meant for you to come up with the definitive solution. It's an exercise in mindset shifting. - Take Action. Take any one item from your list and act on it now. If that means making a phone call for more information, do it. It may also mean asking someone else for help. Whatever it is, taking action sends a message to your subconscious mind that says you're in solution mode and ready to overcome this adversity. - Listen to your intuition. Your subconscious mind knows you're serious about finding a solution that moves you past this adversity. It will go to work on possibilities that you may not have readily thought of.
Be open to your intuitive nudges - that unscheduled stop on the way home from work, that phone call to an associate you haven't talked to in some time, buying that new book a friend just told you about. These are messages pointing you in the right direction. - Trust and believe. This is the hardest part for many people. You would think it's coded in our DNA to worry over things and create stress in our lives. We know it to be a learned behavior - this means it can be unlearned, or rather swapped with trust and belief. Trust that your answers will come and be open to receiving them. Believe that all that is happening in your life, good and not so good, is there to serve you. That means that all is well, all is as it should be. - Give thanks. When times are particularly rough for us, it's hardest to express gratitude for the blessings in our lives. Often, it's because we're focusing on all the negative things. Turn your focus to what you genuinely feel grateful for - your family, a warm house, food on the table, your friends, your pets - you get the picture. Gratitude is a powerful force that when practiced daily, from the heart, has the power to bring miracles into your life.
All the adversity we experience is here to help us learn and grow, and most importantly, to become the person who we want to be, doing the things we love to do, having the things and experiences as a result of who we've become. This is the path in life for every one of us. Awareness of the meaning of adversity opens up the tool box of solutions to overcome them. You're humbled when you break through the barrier of adversity because you see the simplicity of the lesson learned and what a gift it has been to have experienced it.
A Message from Miki Strong, Founder of Mi Hamba:Each and everyone of us has the potential to live an extraordinary life. Discovering our purpose can unlock the door to it being a happy and fulfilling one. Many people ask us how to go about doing just that. They're unhappy, overworked, stressed and want to live their dreams - at the same time they often think it's not possible. At Mi Hamba we excel at showing you how to unlock that door and discover your own potential.
Get access to FREE success resources when you visit us.
Miki StrongFounder, Mi Hambahttp://www.mihamba.comhttp://www.mihambablog.com
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