Thursday, November 29, 2012

Coming Back Home...

“I claim to be a simple individual liable to err like any other fellow mortal. I own, however, that I have humility enough to confess my errors and to retrace my steps.” Gandhi

 Hi All,
The last several years of my life have been challenging and extremely enlightening. To me it’s been all about trying to find my way "Back Home". Back home to my special place in life.

Back home to find the funny kid whose sense of humor got him through life’s rough and tumble challenges. Back home to the dreamer who knew that he can and will make his goals come true. Back home to the kid that always bumped into success at every turn on life's highway. Back home to the kid that grew up without a Father while living in the NYC public housing projects and now's the very proud dad of the best son anyone could ever have.
I want to get back home to the kid who was passionate, hopeful and fearless. I NEEDED to find my way back home so I totally walked away from my life and did a "Do Over", a major life rewind.

I have taken risks that I normally would not take, I have been more introspective and adventurous than I have ever been and I made significant sacrifices that I normally would never make.
I will share my journey, and the lessons learned, with you. Hopefully by sharing my Successes, Mistakes and Setbacks I could cut 5 -10 years, or more, off your learning curve and it will help me to get "Back Home"

Thanks for your understanding and your patience.

Warm Regards,
Barry

 

 

 

Sunday, November 25, 2012

Monday, September 03, 2012

Turn "Socializing" into "Networking"



Turn "Socializing" into "Networking"

by: hunter on Date: Mon, 20 Dec 2010 Time: 6:34 AM

Most professionals know they must network in order to achieve long-term business success. I remember as far back as high school being told by my guidance counselor that I needed to "meet a lot of people and build a network." That was great advice back then and even better advice today.

It's critically important to participate in the public arena and interact with the people who could become your clients, provide you with valuable information or help you further your causes and beliefs.

While they understand the importance of networking, many professionals do a lousy job of it. It's easy to show up at an event, grab a drink, eat some free hors d'oeuvres, say "hi" to a couple people, then go home and pat yourself on the back for being involved in the community.

Unfortunately, that's not networking. It's merely socializing.

There's nothing wrong with socializing. In fact, it's generally a good thing, but it's not efficient. In order to convert socializing into networking, you need to have a three-tiered goal planted in your mind before you even enter the venue where networking will take place.

I call it "goal-based networking," and here's how it works:

Goal #1
"I will get a direct opportunity"
This could be a new client, an invitation to join a prestigious organization, a job offer, a promise to donate money to your pet cause. While Goal #1 is ideal, it unfortunately doesn't happen at most networking events.

Goal #2
"I will get a solid lead on a direct opportunity"
This is almost as good as the first goal, because it moves you closer to what you really want. Goal #2 should happen at the vast majority of networking events you attend. If it doesn't, you're not meeting enough people or not asking the right questions.

Goal #3
"I will meet new people and learn valuable information"
This is the bare-bones minimum goal that you should achieve at every single networking event you attend.

Make a commitment to network more and remember to think about these three goals before walking into your next networking event. Setting these goals consistently over a long period of time will maximize the return from your investments in networking. That means you increase your public profile, connect with the right people and become that person who always seems to know about business happenings long before your colleagues do.

About the Author

Jeff Beals is an award-winning author, who helps professionals do more business and have a greater impact on the world through effective sales, marketing and personal branding techniques. As a professional speaker, he delivers energetic and humorous keynote speeches and workshops to audiences worldwide. You can learn more and follow his "Business Motivation Blog" at http://www.JeffBeals.com.

Tuesday, June 26, 2012

Top 10 Traits of Highly Successful People -That You Can Learn!


By Philip E. Humbert

We have all read about people who are successful briefly. They win a gold medal, make a fortune, or star in one great movie…and then disappear. Or, there are those like Marilyn Monroe and Howard Hughes who achieve extraordinary success, at the cost of their own lives. These examples do not inspire me!

My focus and fascination is with people who seem to do well in many areas of life, and do it over and over through a lifetime. In entertainment, I think of Paul Newman and Bill Cosby. In business, I think of Ben and Jerry (the ice cream moguls), and a local hardware store owner who is famous for the money he’s give to children’s charities. As a Naval Officer, husband, businessman, politician and now as a mediator and philanthropist on the world stage, Jimmy Carter has had a remarkable life. We all know examples of people who go from one success to another.

These are the people who inspire me! I’ve studied them, and I’ve noticed they have the following traits in common:

They work hard! Yes, they play hard, too! They get up early, they rarely complain, they expect performance from others, but they expect extraordinary performance from themselves. Repeated, high-level success starts with a recognition that hard work pays off.

They are incredibly curious and eager to learn. They study, ask questions and read – constantly! An interesting point, however: While most of them did well in school, the difference is that they apply or take advantage of what they learn. Repeated success is not about memorizing facts, it’s about being able to take information and create, build, or apply it in new and important ways. Successful people want to learn everything about everything!

They network. They know lots of people, and they know lots of different kinds of people. They listen to friends, neighbors, co-workers and bartenders. They don’t have to be "the life of the party", in fact many are quiet, even shy, but they value people and they value relationships. Successful people have a rolodex full of people who value their friendship and return their calls.

They work on themselves and never quit! While the "over-night wonders" become arrogant and quickly disappear, really successful people work on their personality, their leadership skills, management skills, and every other detail of life. When a relationship or business deal goes sour, they assume they can learn from it and they expect to do better next time. Successful people don’t tolerate flaws; they fix them!

They are extraordinarily creative. They go around asking, "Why not?" They see new combinations, new possibilities, new opportunities and challenges where others see problems or limitations. They wake up in the middle of the night yelling, "I’ve got it!" They ask for advice, try things out, consult experts and amateurs, always looking for a better, faster, cheaper solution. Successful people create stuff!

They are self-reliant and take responsibility. Incredibly successful people don’t worry about blame, and they don’t waste time complaining. They make decisions and move on. Sometimes they are criticized for taking this to extremes – Jimmy Carter carried his own briefcase and a President "shouldn’t" do that! Extremely successful people take the initiative and accept the responsibilities of success.

They are usually relaxed and keep their perspective. Even in times of stress or turmoil, highly successful people keep their balance, they know the value of timing, humor, and patience. They rarely panic or make decisions on impulse. Unusually successful people breath easily, ask the right questions, and make sound decisions, even in a crisis.

Extremely successful people live in the present moment. They know that "Now" is the only time they can control. They have a "gift" for looking people in the eye, listening to what is being said, enjoying a meal or fine wine, music or playing with a child. They never seem rushed, and they get a lot done! They take full advantage of each day. Successful people don’t waste time, they use it!

They "look over the horizon" to see the future. They observe trends, notice changes, see shifts, and hear the nuances that others miss. A basketball player wearing Nikes is trivial, the neighbor kid wearing them is interesting, your own teenager demanding them is an investment opportunity! Extremely successful people live in the present, with one eye on the future

Repeatedly successful people respond instantly! When an investment isn’t working out, they sell. When they see an opportunity, they make the call. If an important relationship is cooling down, they take time to renew it. When technology or a new competitor or a change in the economic situation requires an adjustment, they are the first and quickest to respond.

These traits work together in combination, giving repeatedly successful people a huge advantage. Because they are insatiable learners, they can respond wisely to change. Because their personal relationships are strong, they have good advisors, and a reserve of goodwill when things go bad. And finally, none of these traits are genetic! They can be learned! They are free and they are skills you can use. Start now!







Wednesday, January 11, 2012

The One Ingredient That Enables You To Have 365 Chances Every Year To Make Your Dreams Come True

By Barry Sarner

What's the Ingredient? It's Positive Expectancy and we all have it in our power to make it an integral part of our life. What is positive expectancy?

Positive Expectancy is all about "New Tomorrows" and the beautiful notion of "Starting Fresh" and "Starting over every day, any day".

The simple reality of it all is that the world wakes up and the world goes to sleep. What happens in between for the most part plays out based on what choices we make all day. The choices could be as simple as deciding to sit on a bus instead of standing.

I had an accident months ago and I played it over and over again in my mind. I remember thinking to myself that if I had left the store when I planned and not gone back for something it would have been someone else and not me in the accident.

The point is that you make decisions and choices all day long. Some work out in your favor and some don't and I say, so what. Why not decide to have an attitude that you're a good person and that you have the right to expect good things to happen to you and for you? It's a simple choice. It's also a numbers game.

The more you believe that you're worthy of good or great personal events the better chance you have of it coming true. Even if it happens initially only 20% of the time that's better than zero times and zero times it will be if your expectations are low or nonexistent.

The exciting reality here is that the more you use, strengthen and adjust your positive expectancy attitude the more your success percentage will go up. Expecting good things to happen every day for you is a choice that every human being should be making. I promise you there's no law, secular or religious, that says that you cannot expect great things to happen to you.

Your past does not determine what your life will be or could be. A firm decision to choose positive expectancy will start you on a journey of success and happiness. Patience and persistence will be the vehicles that get you to the finish line. All you have to realize and then commit to is the fact that you have the right to expect great things and that you'll have great things happen to you.

You have the chance to start your life over 365 days per year. Every year you have 365 chances to make your Dreams come true. Expect good things every day. Every night and every morning tell yourself that although the day may have challenging and stressful situations you still will have good things happen to you. Just say it out loud often and with feeling.

Will this be the day you go for it? Will you go for that dream that keeps you up at night? Will you go for the dream that makes your heart pump faster and your mind spin out of control?

Not today? That's ok. Don't ever give up.You have 364 more chances this year to make it happen.

I wish for you to have a lifetime of very powerful tomorrows.

Sunday, January 01, 2012

CHANGE IS GOOD . . . . FOR THE NEW YEAR

BY DR. SHARON M. MELNICK

There is one "master" resolution. Without it all your other resolutions cannot be carried out. The one ability you wantto resolve to strengthen is Self Trust.

Self-trust is relying upon your inner resources (i.e.emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual) to achievedesired success and fulfillment. It enables you to staysteady and expand what you CAN control in this fast-changingworld, rather than try in futility to change marketconditions or other people.

Self trust is about believing in yourself , i.e., whetheryour efforts are worthwhile and will help you progresstowards the happiness and results you seek.

Self trust is about your ability to manage yourself, sothat when it comes time to do the behavior you've said ishealthy or constructive for you, you can get yourself to doit.

Self trust is about viewing yourself as worth treatingwell, i.e., that you are deserving of having the resultsyou are pursuing. This comes from seeing yourself as otherssee you, not through filters of self judgment.

You judge yourself because you think you will only beloveable to others or secure in your career if you live upto an ideal of perfection. Therefore you always compareyourself to this ideal, setting yourself up to fall shortand beat yourself up.

Everyone, no matter who you are, has felt crunched in thepast year or so. Some of us are feeling overwhelmed by thestresses, others of us are feeling resilient, knowing theywill land on their feet no matter what. Resilient peopleare energized and taking action everyday to createopportunities and keep their relationships strong.

Self trust is a key factor that determines how you will navigate through turbulent times.

How do you rate yourself on a 1-10 scale of Self Trust?What is your Resolution for how Self Trusting you want tobe in 2010 and the upcoming decade?

Self trust is a learned skill. Go to my blogwww.sharonmelnick.com/site/resolution for some questions toaid your yearly review and an exercise to build selftrust.

Leave me your comments about this blog post and let me know how you build self trust.--Dr. Sharon M. Melnick(O) 212.842.4638sharon@sharonmelnick.com Follow me on Twitter: DrSharonMelnick

WISHING YOU ALL A HAPPY, HEALTHY, PROSPEROUS NEW YEAR

"Whatever you do, or dream you can, begin it.Boldness has genius and power and magic in it."~Goethe~

To me the New Year is all about Positive Expectancy. It's all about "Tomorrows" and the beautiful notion of "Starting Fresh" and "Starting over every day, any day"

I want to wish you all a very Happy, Healthy, Prosperous New year.

You have the chance to start your life over 365 days per year. Every year you have 365 chances to make your Dreams come true.

It's January 1. Will this be the day you go for it? Go for that dream that keeps you up at night. The dream that makes your heart pump faster and your mind spin out of control.

Not today?That's ok. Don't ever give up... You have 364 more chances.

Have a powerful New Year.