CHANGE IS GOOD. . . . .CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS

It's Easy to Become Rich, Famous and Happy - Lesson Two

By BARRY SARNER

Hi All...

Let's get on with our "magic mystery tour."

Everything that you are or ever will be is the result of how you use your mind. The world you see is simply the result of thought. Magnificent achievements and wondrous Journeys all started with a thought. I'm telling you now that it is a fact, whatever you believe you can achieve. Think you'll fail ? There is a good chance you will...Think you'll succeed? There is a good chance you will. You'll never be wrong.

The above concept has been covered and written about ad nauseum. The phrase, ad nauseum, has been used ad nauseum. The point?... Obviously you must come to accept this concept as a fact. You must think positive thoughts. You must also accept the fact that this is crazy. It's impossible to think positive thoughts all the time. Let's all agree that where you are today, is where you THOUGHT you were supposed to be. You can change your life by changing the way you think. I'm not minimizing the concept at all. I know it to be true. I've been there and done that but...

What about the negative little buggers that creep into your thinking? The ones that make you sad, angry or fearful. Do you close your eyes and start singing Gloria Gaynor's song "I Will Survive? and hope they go away? No, you don't. You work with your emotions and feelings and move forward.

Learning how to manage and be in control of your mind and all your emotions is a critical, I repeat a critical, step to becoming Rich, Famous and Happy.

Lesson TWO - EMOTIONS

To be able to travel the road to become Rich, Famous and Happy you need to stay in mentally great shape. Situations are always changing. Nothing is static. Embracing the changes can at times be very challenging. Every feeling you experience is influenced by your thoughts. Your thoughts and feelings are connected. Sometimes the days can "feel" very heavy and your thoughts can drain your energy. Negative thoughts bring negative emotions, positive thoughts bring positive emotions and then there are the dreaded feelings from nowhere. You could be feeling great one minute and the next second something changes and a wave of sadness washes over your whole body and you don't know why.

Conscious and subconscious thoughts affect your feelings and feelings affect your thoughts in an unending cycle. You are not unique. You are not alone. This happens to all of us and, yes, it even happens to the Rich, Famous and Happy people. They just learned how to manage their thoughts and emotions and are able to keep moving forward.

It's too darn hard, if not impossible, to fully control your thoughts and emotions. I do my best and try my hardest to at least manage my thoughts but, please"listen"carefully, "I pal around with and pay more attention to my emotions." I'll explain:

1 - The core emotions are Happiness, Sadness, Surprise, Disgust, Anger and Fear. I see my emotions as my friends. My Buds. Sometimes they act like my Buds on steroids but, my buddies never the less. They are there to keep me safe. There is no such thing as good or bad emotions.

They all have a job to do. We weren't created with built in booby traps.

They are there to protect and support any lifestyle you have chosen to pursue and alert you to any mental or physical changes you may experience. Think, gauges on your cars dashboard.

They're there to warn you, support you and help you ...Period.

2 - I've made a simple distinction in my life about the different emotions. Emotions that make you feel like smiling are telling you that you are on the right road and emotions that make you feel sad or scared are telling you to stop or slow down and beware, a detour or change may be needed. SIMPLE. It is too difficult to be aware of all the conscious thoughts flying around and, oh yeah; those subconscious thoughts are a real walk in the park. I embrace my emotions first. This helps me keep on moving forward until I can capture and decide what to do with my thoughts.

3 - Thoughts affect your emotions and your feelings. When you can capture a thought you have

4 simple options:

A-Treat the thought as family and give it a home.
B-Treat the thought as a guest and only give it a few minutes or a few hours to visit.
C-Treat the thought as an intruder and throw its butt to the curb.
D-lock it in the "closet" until you feel rested or have the time to deal with it.

4-There is only ONE way to manage your emotions and be able to constantly move smoothly towards your goals:

EMBRACE THEM and TALK TO THEM.

When sadness knocks or fear jumps out at you, find a safe place where you can Talk to yourself, Scream, Cry or just fall apart if that's where your session leads you. Think about where you want to classify your thoughts and then start to ask yourself questions. Remember you may also feel sad or scared for no apparent reason.

Questions will set you free. ASK: Emotions, what are you trying to tell me? What am I feeling? I am scared or sad but why? What happened to change my mood? Push and probe until you feel the rush of an emotional volcano.It's an experience you will never forget.

TALK OUT LOUD.

In any case, let your feelings wash over you.

Let the answers to your questions make the tears flow. Tears and talking out loud with yourself will lighten your mental pain. Tears,like laughter, are an emotional release...It is not a sign of weakness.

Tears, Laughter and screams are simply emotional safety valves.

5 - The MAIN POINT... Emotions don't want to live with you. They just want to be heard and know they did their job. Acknowledge them and they move on...And so do you.

Barry Sarner, Mr. Change is Good, is a Serial Entrepreneur and the owner of the Trademarked Slogan "CHANGE IS GOOD".

A Message From Barry...

"Is there one thing that is holding you back from becoming wildly successful and happy? The rich, famous,and happy people know what that is. It's that six letter word that turns most people upside down and inside out...CHANGE...Let's hear about what effect CHANGE has had on your personal or business life and how you came out on top...or not. Let's share our stories, advice and help each other live peacefully with change. LET'S HELP EACH OTHER TO MAKE OUR DREAMS COME TRUE... CHANGE IS GOOD". C'mon people let's form the biggest mastermind group in the world. You can be the one !!! you can make a difference...Help me, Help us..Meet me at my Blog with your stories, advice and inspirational messages.
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CHANGE IS GOOD....BALANCE IS NEEDED

Teetering on the Brink of Balance

By Sheryl Turgeon


"The human body is unlimited in potential; it is just a matter of knowing how to access it."
~John Douillard, PhD

As the plane rises in the sky, the attendant explains, "If the oxygen mask drops down, put your own mask on first. Then you may help your children with theirs." That statement has become quite profound to me. As I am learning with my clients, we can't really help others when our own lives are too frenetic, chaotic, overburdened, or stressed.

As women, we have been taught to be "good girls" and make sure others' needs are satisfied before our own. It is a message that translates into ignoring fatigue, saying "yes" when we mean "no," keeping silent when slighted so we don't offend others, and slipping into roles that never quite fit us. Many of us feel so much guilt or anxiety when we try to break free of the dictates of our culture, that we simply find it "easier" to keep being good.

The prescriptions for healthy living abound in our women's magazines-get regular exercise, sleep eight hours, eat a well-balanced diet, maintain close relationships, drink plenty of water, think positive thoughts, find work you like...Each recommendation is perfectly valid and helpful, but without attending to our core values, needs, and desires, they seem like empty platitudes.

I have seen clients blossom when they learn to love and treat themselves well. Sometimes they make drastic changes to honor their authentic selves. Other times, it just requires enough support from outside, that they learn to recognize how to treat themselves with the same gentle care.

Creating balance in our lives is not an overnight phenomenon. We need to feel well enough in the first place to have the strength to make changes. As a health and nutritional counselor, I have experienced firsthand that we are what we eat. We need to treat our bodies with love and respect by eating whole, fresh foods and cutting down on the caffeine and sugar to start feeling healthy again.

The next step, fresh air and exercise, raises our endorphins, gets our blood flowing and our heart beating. Fresh, pure water cleanses out the toxins and keeps us well hydrated. Now we can get busy on who we are and what gives us joy.

Change happens in baby steps. Maybe we buy ourselves fresh flowers one day. The next day we say "yes" to a yoga class. Day three we leave work early and get a massage. Day four may be calling a friend and delaying dinner for 20 minutes. I'm sure you get the idea. Just implement one new self-love activity per day for a week and see how you feel. You might make some notes in a journal as part of your experiment. Eventually, you will be saying "no" to someone when you feel too tired to take on one more thing. You will realize when you are feeling anxious and slow down to take a few deep breaths.

The practice of listening to ourselves, hearing what we need and then acting upon it brings us into balance. The more we practice, the better life gets. Try it!
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