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Thursday, October 29, 2009
CHANGE IS GOOD . . . . .WHO ARE YOU?
Why Failure Usually Comes Down to Personality
By Mika Libambu Schiller
One of the ironclad rules of the human condition is that anything difficult takes more than one person to accomplish. In reality, what makes difficult things so difficult is that there are so many variables involved that require the right kinds of people to understand them and to work together.
If you spend enough time working towards something, chances are that you'll get what you want in one form or another...granted that within that period of time you manage to find the right ways to work with the right people. Your success at that will depend to a large degree on your personality.
Your personality is the number one factor in determining your success in life...hands down. Personality encompasses a lot though; drive, persistence, openness, etc.
That means that if you don't have the type of personality that allows you to do things like change your mind when evidence presents itself or subdue your ego to the common good, it's highly unlikely that you'll get far at anything at all.
That's a pretty sobering statement. The good news is that the execution of your personality is something you have complete control over. In other words, you can change the way you do things to increase your chances of succeeding.
Let's take something like starting up a successful music enterprise; band, indie record label, whatever. It's a profit-making enterprise. These days, it's gotten more complicated to start one because of all the new moving parts. If you lead any type of a music enterprise, you've got to think about all of the people who are going to execute on all the new business realities out there; the new stuff like social media and blogs and the other stuff like website maintenance, creative direction, business management, touring, etc.
With so many variables involved and with the multitude of people required to execute on an idea, it's no surprise that most things that get started don't last because of conflicts of interest.
What I've discovered is that for the vast majority of people, their ego often times more important to them than the goal of the group or of the project at any given point in time. It's even worse with highly skilled and creative people. Sometimes, even if they know that an idea is right, they reject it because they didn't come up with it. Or they just won't fully buy into it and it slows down progress. It kills group morale.
One thing I've learned is that the best way to deal with the human ego is through what I call the Law of Positive Reinforcement. It sounds like fluff, but it's not. And it's not an entirely new idea either.
It basically states that, being that people are driven by ego, and that you'll never change that, the best way to make progress is by stroking people's egos. And you do that by compromise through logic and persuasion.
If you have an idea for something, it's more likely to get accepted by people if you detach your own ego from it. People are status driven. The minute they perceive that your idea is tainted with your own ego, they dig in their heels. If you argue in a nuanced way with facts, they can't attack you.
It works the other way too. If someone proposes an idea and you have a better alternative, you pick their idea apart with facts, not opinion. Progress is made when people agree on the facts.
Politicians do that all the time. Barack Obama's a master at it. He has the ability to attack any angle of an issue without injecting himself personally. That's why everybody thinks he's such a nice guy. I don't doubt he is, but he's also a sharp-elbowed politician. He just conceals it well.
This is all common sense stuff, but hard to act on because our egos often get in the way of measured action.
So, if you want to get things done, realize that the world is full of flawed human beings. You need them. And you need to stroke their egos.
Mika Schiller author blurb: Mika Schiller is a writer for the Indie music website MADE and he writes about where the music industry's headed and how it relates to the Independent Music artist. He gives irreverent career and personal development advice to the Indie music artist. For more great writing and irresistible advice, along with a free report on effective MySpace music marketing, please visit http://www.letsgetmade.com
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Mika_Libambu_Schiller
By Mika Libambu Schiller
One of the ironclad rules of the human condition is that anything difficult takes more than one person to accomplish. In reality, what makes difficult things so difficult is that there are so many variables involved that require the right kinds of people to understand them and to work together.
If you spend enough time working towards something, chances are that you'll get what you want in one form or another...granted that within that period of time you manage to find the right ways to work with the right people. Your success at that will depend to a large degree on your personality.
Your personality is the number one factor in determining your success in life...hands down. Personality encompasses a lot though; drive, persistence, openness, etc.
That means that if you don't have the type of personality that allows you to do things like change your mind when evidence presents itself or subdue your ego to the common good, it's highly unlikely that you'll get far at anything at all.
That's a pretty sobering statement. The good news is that the execution of your personality is something you have complete control over. In other words, you can change the way you do things to increase your chances of succeeding.
Let's take something like starting up a successful music enterprise; band, indie record label, whatever. It's a profit-making enterprise. These days, it's gotten more complicated to start one because of all the new moving parts. If you lead any type of a music enterprise, you've got to think about all of the people who are going to execute on all the new business realities out there; the new stuff like social media and blogs and the other stuff like website maintenance, creative direction, business management, touring, etc.
With so many variables involved and with the multitude of people required to execute on an idea, it's no surprise that most things that get started don't last because of conflicts of interest.
What I've discovered is that for the vast majority of people, their ego often times more important to them than the goal of the group or of the project at any given point in time. It's even worse with highly skilled and creative people. Sometimes, even if they know that an idea is right, they reject it because they didn't come up with it. Or they just won't fully buy into it and it slows down progress. It kills group morale.
One thing I've learned is that the best way to deal with the human ego is through what I call the Law of Positive Reinforcement. It sounds like fluff, but it's not. And it's not an entirely new idea either.
It basically states that, being that people are driven by ego, and that you'll never change that, the best way to make progress is by stroking people's egos. And you do that by compromise through logic and persuasion.
If you have an idea for something, it's more likely to get accepted by people if you detach your own ego from it. People are status driven. The minute they perceive that your idea is tainted with your own ego, they dig in their heels. If you argue in a nuanced way with facts, they can't attack you.
It works the other way too. If someone proposes an idea and you have a better alternative, you pick their idea apart with facts, not opinion. Progress is made when people agree on the facts.
Politicians do that all the time. Barack Obama's a master at it. He has the ability to attack any angle of an issue without injecting himself personally. That's why everybody thinks he's such a nice guy. I don't doubt he is, but he's also a sharp-elbowed politician. He just conceals it well.
This is all common sense stuff, but hard to act on because our egos often get in the way of measured action.
So, if you want to get things done, realize that the world is full of flawed human beings. You need them. And you need to stroke their egos.
Mika Schiller author blurb: Mika Schiller is a writer for the Indie music website MADE and he writes about where the music industry's headed and how it relates to the Independent Music artist. He gives irreverent career and personal development advice to the Indie music artist. For more great writing and irresistible advice, along with a free report on effective MySpace music marketing, please visit http://www.letsgetmade.com
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Mika_Libambu_Schiller
Saturday, October 17, 2009
CHANGE IS GOOD . . . .THE KEY TO SUCCESS
Think and Grow Rich - Organized Planning Through Masterminding
By Gerrald Hendrix
Napoleon Hill, author of "Think and Grow Rich" stressed the importance of masterminding at two critical phases in his sixth step toward riches. At the onset of our planning we must have mastermind group input. As we implement and adjust our plans we must continue to maintain our relationship with the group.
Most people are ready to grow rich but really have no idea of where to start, much less the processes involved.
Previous steps prior to organized planning include:
Desire or a burning passion to acquire riches or some other goal.
Faith that you will obtain your desires.
Autosuggestion to enable you to build your faith.
Specialized knowledge as may be required.
Imagination to conceive the idea which you will use to obtain your riches or goal.
As we progress through the steps toward our goal, we have arrived at the point where our initial desire will be as Mr. Hill described it, "crystallized" into action. This will require planning.
This is not to be confused with our initial plan which contains our goal, expected date to receive our goal, etc. This plan is where we begin to take definite action.
You may ask why you need to have a plan when you know what you want.
Napoleon Hill said it best. "No individual has sufficient experience, education, native ability, and knowledge to insure the accumulation of a great fortune without the cooperation of other people"
What he is saying is that you will need to jointly plan with your group. The original idea may be your own creation, but the final version and its methods of implementation must be a joint venture.
Masterminding is certainly not a new or unique concept. It is no more than a group of individuals with mastery in various and numerous subjects pertaining to your particular needs, coming together to advise you and critique your plans.
Mr. Hill deemed this step as absolutely essential. Do not neglect it!
How to form a mastermind group:
Research and seek out people who may assist you with your plans.
Form an alliance with as many people as you need to create and help you carry out your plan or plans.
As you form the alliance, decide what service you will render in exchange for their alliance. This may be money or a service.
Arrange to meet with this group as often weekly as is necessary to create and implement your plan.
Establish and maintain a harmonious relationship among all members. This again is an absolute essential.
The advantages of a mastermind group:
Allows you, with the help of the group, to formulate plans that to the best of everyone's collective knowledge are sound and faultless.
Enables you to "fall back and regroup" if your plan does not work and you have to make adjustments or new plans.
Your ideas may indeed be sound, however your plans may not be and therefore you don't achieve what you desire. This is where most simply give up. Most people give up on the idea rather than press on until they find the successful plan.
As Mr. Hill illustrates in his text, Thomas Edison experienced ten thousand "temporary defeats" before he perfected the incandescent light bulb. Yes, ten thousand!
If you really having a burning desire for riches, you will need a fiery persistence to build and if need be rebuild your plans, never admitting final defeat.
"No man is ever whipped, unless he quits in his own mind", Napoleon Hill, "Think and Grow Rich".
My name is Gerrald Hendrix (Jerry). I am an internet entrepreneur marketing wealth creation, education and management products and services. I am one of a team of marketers teaching others how to be successful in challenging times. See what we do and how your life can be changed forever. My associate Michael has more information for you at: http://allseriousentrepreneurs.com/?site=VMichaelF
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Saturday, October 10, 2009
CHANGE IS GOOD . . . DON'T WORRY
A Leadership Truth: It's OK Not to Know It All
By Mark E. Green
Executives and other business leaders who “make it to the top” typically have invested many years in education, hard work, and self-sacrifice. They are seasoned veterans whohave the potential to lead their organizations to new heights of competitiveness, profitability, and success.
But truthfully, most business leaders don’t know everything they need to know. It’s not their fault -- it’s simply a fact that’s helpful to admit. Running an organization of any size is a complicated undertaking. Organizations are living, breathing entities in a constantly changing environment and the folks at the top have one of the toughest jobs around. How could they possibly know everything?
Successfully getting everyone on the same page, developing vision, planning, and then executing to maximize profits and attain other objectives requires a delicate balance of cooperation, coordination, and communication. In the present business climate, executives are expected to accomplish increasingly ambitious goals with a decreasing pool of resources.
To compound this problem, many capable executives heap added pressure on themselves by thinking and expecting that they should know everything. Some may even feel embarrassed if they don’t have all the answers all the time.
In fact, people don’t expect those who are leading them to be self-sufficient. They simply want them to be willing to ask for help when it’s needed, and to know where to go to get the answers. In other words, there’s no place for superheroes or “know-it-alls” in organizational leadership.
An interesting story about Henry Ford will illuminate this point. After World War I, Mr. Ford – relatively uneducated, but one of the most economically powerful men on the planet - filed a lawsuit against the Chicago Tribune for calling him “ignorant.” During the trial, the newspaper’s lawyer repeatedly tried to embarrass Mr. Ford with trivial, needling questions designed to prove how much he didn't know.
Finally, when his patience was fully exhausted, Ford told the court that he had a series of buttons on his desk. He said that whenever he desired information or needed help to accomplish a task, he could immediately summon the right person to fulfill his need. Henry Ford had deliberately surrounded himself with experts.
There was silence in the courtroom. The Chicago Tribune’s attorney dropped his jaw in surprise. Up until that moment the lawyer had been enjoying considerable fun at what he believed to be Ford’s expense. But Ford’s remark spoiled the lawyer’s fun and changed the course of the trial.
When Henry Ford needed help, he knew exactly where to turn. In fact, he planned for it. Business leaders don’t need to be experts in everything. But they do need to be willing and able to ask for help in the areas where they lack knowledge and experience.
So where is it that you may need some help? And what are you planning to do about it?
Since founding Performance Dynamics Group in 2003, Mark Green has spoken to and consulted with thousands of business leaders to predictably convert the promise of strategic change into a reality of performance and results. His clients absolutely do not want yet another "flavor of the year" initiative -- they want measurable and sustainable results.
If you feel the same and would like to understand how his speaking and consulting might be just the right fit for your business, give him a call at 732-537-0381.
To learn more and to subscribe to Mark's free monthly enewsletter, visit us on the web at http://www.performance-dynamics.net
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Mark_E._Green
By Mark E. Green
Executives and other business leaders who “make it to the top” typically have invested many years in education, hard work, and self-sacrifice. They are seasoned veterans whohave the potential to lead their organizations to new heights of competitiveness, profitability, and success.
But truthfully, most business leaders don’t know everything they need to know. It’s not their fault -- it’s simply a fact that’s helpful to admit. Running an organization of any size is a complicated undertaking. Organizations are living, breathing entities in a constantly changing environment and the folks at the top have one of the toughest jobs around. How could they possibly know everything?
Successfully getting everyone on the same page, developing vision, planning, and then executing to maximize profits and attain other objectives requires a delicate balance of cooperation, coordination, and communication. In the present business climate, executives are expected to accomplish increasingly ambitious goals with a decreasing pool of resources.
To compound this problem, many capable executives heap added pressure on themselves by thinking and expecting that they should know everything. Some may even feel embarrassed if they don’t have all the answers all the time.
In fact, people don’t expect those who are leading them to be self-sufficient. They simply want them to be willing to ask for help when it’s needed, and to know where to go to get the answers. In other words, there’s no place for superheroes or “know-it-alls” in organizational leadership.
An interesting story about Henry Ford will illuminate this point. After World War I, Mr. Ford – relatively uneducated, but one of the most economically powerful men on the planet - filed a lawsuit against the Chicago Tribune for calling him “ignorant.” During the trial, the newspaper’s lawyer repeatedly tried to embarrass Mr. Ford with trivial, needling questions designed to prove how much he didn't know.
Finally, when his patience was fully exhausted, Ford told the court that he had a series of buttons on his desk. He said that whenever he desired information or needed help to accomplish a task, he could immediately summon the right person to fulfill his need. Henry Ford had deliberately surrounded himself with experts.
There was silence in the courtroom. The Chicago Tribune’s attorney dropped his jaw in surprise. Up until that moment the lawyer had been enjoying considerable fun at what he believed to be Ford’s expense. But Ford’s remark spoiled the lawyer’s fun and changed the course of the trial.
When Henry Ford needed help, he knew exactly where to turn. In fact, he planned for it. Business leaders don’t need to be experts in everything. But they do need to be willing and able to ask for help in the areas where they lack knowledge and experience.
So where is it that you may need some help? And what are you planning to do about it?
Since founding Performance Dynamics Group in 2003, Mark Green has spoken to and consulted with thousands of business leaders to predictably convert the promise of strategic change into a reality of performance and results. His clients absolutely do not want yet another "flavor of the year" initiative -- they want measurable and sustainable results.
If you feel the same and would like to understand how his speaking and consulting might be just the right fit for your business, give him a call at 732-537-0381.
To learn more and to subscribe to Mark's free monthly enewsletter, visit us on the web at http://www.performance-dynamics.net
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Mark_E._Green
Friday, October 02, 2009
CHANGE IS GOOD . . . YOU COULD DO IT !!!
How to Overcome Insurmountable Obstacles
By Dr. Annette Colby, RDAnnette@AnnetteColby.com or www.AnnetteColby.com
Years ago, I realized that our personal challenges offer a special opportunity to understand ourselves, our capabilities, and the meaning of life. Personal challenges are a way of working things out for ourselves, and discovering new solutions within our creative selves for old problems.
We often view personal challenges as shameful, a curse, or an inner enemy that needs to be conquered. It’s tempting to consider frustrating challenges such as emotional or compulsive eating, weight issues, panic and anxiety, obsessive thoughts, and depression as beyond our control.
However, personal challenge offers a unique opportunity to grow, learn, and love. Your challenges ask more of you than you have ever experienced. They take you into new territory and greater possibilities. They ask you to dig deep and discover confidence, self-esteem, and unexplored reservoirs of self-love.
Facing a Dead-EndIf you have an unachievable challenge or a goal, chances are you will find yourself facing a wall. You will feel worn out and discouraged. It’s been a long and difficult journey and now you find yourself staring at a dead-end. All the doubts and negative beliefs you hold about your ability to achieve success rise up from within and swarm into your conscious awareness.
Feelings of hopelessness, ineptitude, unworthiness, or even shame swarm through your mind and body. You want to turn and run away from this wall and your terrible feelings as fast as you can. However, this dead-end is exactly the place you need to be right now, and facing your feelings is the way out.
Limiting Beliefs
That wall represents your limiting beliefs. It’s not there because the universe is teaching you one big lesson. It’s not there because you’re a bad person, because you’re being punished, or because you are not worthy or capable. Instead, that wall is there because it symbolizes the things you believe about yourself that place limitations on your abilities. Limiting beliefs are ideas that hold you back and keep you from becoming the person you want to be. Most times limiting beliefs are not true, but because you believe them to be true they act like brakes on your progress. Limiting beliefs are ideas that some there is some character trait about you that is inescapable or unchangeable.
If you feel that some area of your life isn’t the way you want it be, yet you feel hopeless, helpless, or worthless to change it, then you probably have limiting beliefs.
Here are a few examples of limiting beliefs:
I can’t.
I am bad.
I won’t succeed, so there’s no point in trying.
I lack the ability to achieve my goal.
I can’t have what I want.
I’m not good enough.
I don’t deserve anything.
I’m afraid of success.
I Can’t Have What I Want
If you are facing a wall, congratulations are in order! We are generally not consciously aware of our limiting beliefs. But because of your personal challenge you took risks and tried new actions that allowed you to consciously wander through your inner landscape to discover what you are currently capable of achieving. Your goal actually did what it was supposed to do. It brought you face-to-face with your limiting beliefs, emotional resistance, and all the reasons why you believe you can’t have what you most want. Your goal showed you the difference between the current reality that you live in and the reality that you want to live in.
Feelings Tell the Truth
You may not recognize your exact limiting belief, but when you are facing an obstacle you almost always can feel the energy that goes with your belief. Sometimes a limiting belief will make you feel anxious or angry. Other times you may feel overwhelmed, irritated, lethargic, or even depressed. If you’re feeling hopeless, helpless, or like you are about to collapse in front of your goal, chances are you are in direct contact with a limiting belief. What’s the solution? Say hello, don’t run, and be willing to admit consciously what you believe to be true about you or your ability to navigate through this situation.
A New Potential Reality
There is the potential of a happier, brighter, more expansive reality on the other side of your wall. Yet, there’s a catch. That reality doesn’t exist yet. It has to be imagined, created, and allowed first – by you. To get to the other side of the wall requires envisioning yourself living the type of life you want to be living, and gaining new beliefs that will support you living that life. That’s the purpose of your challenge. You’re not fighting against what you don’t want, you are in the process of choosing the life you want to live, and then building the self-supportive beliefs necessary to allow you to live that life. If you are facing a wall, back up and examine your challenge. Why you want what you want, and what strengths you will gain by creating that success in your life?
How To Overcome Limiting Beliefs
Many of our limiting beliefs are stubborn, deeply entrenched, and feel unbearable. Yet to get beyond the wall requires facing your current beliefs about life, others, and yourself, and seeing where those beliefs limit and hold you back. Instead of turning back in defeat or pushing relentlessly against an unmovable wall, decide to get acquainted with your beliefs.
Becoming aware of limiting beliefs is typically challenging, since beliefs tend to remain hidden in our subconscious. But if you are attempting to overcome a personal challenge, then you are in luck! With every new action you take, your fears and limiting beliefs are bound to rise up out of hiding. When they do, you can calmly ask yourself these questions:
What exactly are you telling yourself when the situation seems unachievable?
What do you feel to be true about yourself when you are facing a dead-end?
Why is your goal unattainable?
What skills do you lack to attain it?
Why don’t you deserve to achieve your goal?
How does this belief keep you safe?
What benefit do you get from holding this belief?
Although overcoming a personal challenge is frightening and uncomfortable, instead of treating it like an enemy, embrace it like a friend. It’s a golden opportunity to uncover deep, self-limiting beliefs and replace them with new self-empowering beliefs. To overcome your self-limiting beliefs, examine the beliefs you hold. Question their validity. Journal about them. Take a conscious look at them, and decide if those beliefs are really the ones you want to hold in your future. And then take action to replace them with better ones.
(c) 2009 Dr. Annette Colby, RD
About The AuthorDr. Annette Colby, RD can help you take the pain out of life, turn difficult emotions into joy, release stress, end emotional eating, and move beyond depression into an extraordinary life! Annette is the author of Your Highest Potential and has the unique ability to show you how to spark an amazing relationship with your life! Visit www.AnnetteColby.comto access hundreds of content filled articles and sign up for a Fr’ee subscription to Loving Mriacles newsletter.
Note: Are you looking for fresh content for your e-zine or web site? Feel free to reprint this article as long as it’s kept intact and unaltered (including the “About The Author” info at the end).
By Dr. Annette Colby, RDAnnette@AnnetteColby.com or www.AnnetteColby.com
Years ago, I realized that our personal challenges offer a special opportunity to understand ourselves, our capabilities, and the meaning of life. Personal challenges are a way of working things out for ourselves, and discovering new solutions within our creative selves for old problems.
We often view personal challenges as shameful, a curse, or an inner enemy that needs to be conquered. It’s tempting to consider frustrating challenges such as emotional or compulsive eating, weight issues, panic and anxiety, obsessive thoughts, and depression as beyond our control.
However, personal challenge offers a unique opportunity to grow, learn, and love. Your challenges ask more of you than you have ever experienced. They take you into new territory and greater possibilities. They ask you to dig deep and discover confidence, self-esteem, and unexplored reservoirs of self-love.
Facing a Dead-EndIf you have an unachievable challenge or a goal, chances are you will find yourself facing a wall. You will feel worn out and discouraged. It’s been a long and difficult journey and now you find yourself staring at a dead-end. All the doubts and negative beliefs you hold about your ability to achieve success rise up from within and swarm into your conscious awareness.
Feelings of hopelessness, ineptitude, unworthiness, or even shame swarm through your mind and body. You want to turn and run away from this wall and your terrible feelings as fast as you can. However, this dead-end is exactly the place you need to be right now, and facing your feelings is the way out.
Limiting Beliefs
That wall represents your limiting beliefs. It’s not there because the universe is teaching you one big lesson. It’s not there because you’re a bad person, because you’re being punished, or because you are not worthy or capable. Instead, that wall is there because it symbolizes the things you believe about yourself that place limitations on your abilities. Limiting beliefs are ideas that hold you back and keep you from becoming the person you want to be. Most times limiting beliefs are not true, but because you believe them to be true they act like brakes on your progress. Limiting beliefs are ideas that some there is some character trait about you that is inescapable or unchangeable.
If you feel that some area of your life isn’t the way you want it be, yet you feel hopeless, helpless, or worthless to change it, then you probably have limiting beliefs.
Here are a few examples of limiting beliefs:
I can’t.
I am bad.
I won’t succeed, so there’s no point in trying.
I lack the ability to achieve my goal.
I can’t have what I want.
I’m not good enough.
I don’t deserve anything.
I’m afraid of success.
I Can’t Have What I Want
If you are facing a wall, congratulations are in order! We are generally not consciously aware of our limiting beliefs. But because of your personal challenge you took risks and tried new actions that allowed you to consciously wander through your inner landscape to discover what you are currently capable of achieving. Your goal actually did what it was supposed to do. It brought you face-to-face with your limiting beliefs, emotional resistance, and all the reasons why you believe you can’t have what you most want. Your goal showed you the difference between the current reality that you live in and the reality that you want to live in.
Feelings Tell the Truth
You may not recognize your exact limiting belief, but when you are facing an obstacle you almost always can feel the energy that goes with your belief. Sometimes a limiting belief will make you feel anxious or angry. Other times you may feel overwhelmed, irritated, lethargic, or even depressed. If you’re feeling hopeless, helpless, or like you are about to collapse in front of your goal, chances are you are in direct contact with a limiting belief. What’s the solution? Say hello, don’t run, and be willing to admit consciously what you believe to be true about you or your ability to navigate through this situation.
A New Potential Reality
There is the potential of a happier, brighter, more expansive reality on the other side of your wall. Yet, there’s a catch. That reality doesn’t exist yet. It has to be imagined, created, and allowed first – by you. To get to the other side of the wall requires envisioning yourself living the type of life you want to be living, and gaining new beliefs that will support you living that life. That’s the purpose of your challenge. You’re not fighting against what you don’t want, you are in the process of choosing the life you want to live, and then building the self-supportive beliefs necessary to allow you to live that life. If you are facing a wall, back up and examine your challenge. Why you want what you want, and what strengths you will gain by creating that success in your life?
How To Overcome Limiting Beliefs
Many of our limiting beliefs are stubborn, deeply entrenched, and feel unbearable. Yet to get beyond the wall requires facing your current beliefs about life, others, and yourself, and seeing where those beliefs limit and hold you back. Instead of turning back in defeat or pushing relentlessly against an unmovable wall, decide to get acquainted with your beliefs.
Becoming aware of limiting beliefs is typically challenging, since beliefs tend to remain hidden in our subconscious. But if you are attempting to overcome a personal challenge, then you are in luck! With every new action you take, your fears and limiting beliefs are bound to rise up out of hiding. When they do, you can calmly ask yourself these questions:
What exactly are you telling yourself when the situation seems unachievable?
What do you feel to be true about yourself when you are facing a dead-end?
Why is your goal unattainable?
What skills do you lack to attain it?
Why don’t you deserve to achieve your goal?
How does this belief keep you safe?
What benefit do you get from holding this belief?
Although overcoming a personal challenge is frightening and uncomfortable, instead of treating it like an enemy, embrace it like a friend. It’s a golden opportunity to uncover deep, self-limiting beliefs and replace them with new self-empowering beliefs. To overcome your self-limiting beliefs, examine the beliefs you hold. Question their validity. Journal about them. Take a conscious look at them, and decide if those beliefs are really the ones you want to hold in your future. And then take action to replace them with better ones.
(c) 2009 Dr. Annette Colby, RD
About The AuthorDr. Annette Colby, RD can help you take the pain out of life, turn difficult emotions into joy, release stress, end emotional eating, and move beyond depression into an extraordinary life! Annette is the author of Your Highest Potential and has the unique ability to show you how to spark an amazing relationship with your life! Visit www.AnnetteColby.comto access hundreds of content filled articles and sign up for a Fr’ee subscription to Loving Mriacles newsletter.
Note: Are you looking for fresh content for your e-zine or web site? Feel free to reprint this article as long as it’s kept intact and unaltered (including the “About The Author” info at the end).
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