CHANGE IS GOOD . . . .HERE'S THE SECRET

Want to Know How to Be Happy - Here's 1 Shocking Secret No One Tells You About How to Be Happy

By Ali Berman

So you want to know how to be happy?

I understand how you feel. In fact I spent much of my first forty years wondering if I would ever know happiness on a permanent basis.

But I have a secret for you...and here it is:

I live in happiness now and you can too.

I realized the key to living in happiness and now I teach it to people every day.

What is the secret?

You will not change until you are ready to change.

What?

You can tell yourself and your friends and family that you want to change, that you want your life to be different. Most people do-only they just give lip service to that idea.

Change takes energy. You need to exert effort to accomplish change.

To actually change the way you live your life you must first decide you want to change. Then you must be truthful with yourself about being ready to change now.

Most people have too much invested in staying the way they are. After all, change means leaving your comfort zone! Most people don't want to step outside the box.

As a psychotherapist I found that most people who said they wanted to change got too many benefits staying stuck to really want to change.

I would not see someone longer than three months tops-now even less. Now I can tell immediately before seeing someone-if they are ready to change,

I will not waste my time and energy or their time and money unless they are both ready, truly ready, and willing to do the work to change.

So how can you tell if you are ready to change? There are telltale signs.

1. Your vocabulary is free from words including "try, but, must and have to, should've, could've, would've, and can't"-to name a few.
Words either empower you or disempower you. Someone who wants to change empowers themselves with their word choice.
2. If the thought of change invigorates you and also scares you a bit then you are ready to take action in a new direction. Risk feels like adventure for you.
3. Recognizing the people in your world will not like your changing. You feel okay knowing your relationships with those closest to you will change.
4. You may lose some friends...and you feel okay about the possibility of losing some friends because you feel stifled living as you are not and you know, for your sake, you must do something different!

Warning: Do not neglect the above! Make sure to take this advice seriously if you want to live in happiness.

STOP! Are you about to give up the life changes that will let you be happy forever?

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And remember... Don't give up hope... You deserve to be happy

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