BY BARRY SARNER
Hope is the number one element in your Success Repertoire (love that word).
"Once you choose hope, anything's possible." ~Christopher Reeve
To understand why Hope is such an essential element in moving forward one just has to look at the definition to see its power.
Hope is Defined:
Hope is a belief in a positive outcome related to events and circumstances in one's life. Hope is the feeling that what is wanted can be had or that events will turn out for the best.
In a religious context, it is not considered as a physical emotion but as a spiritual grace. Hope is distinct from positive thinking, which refers to a therapeutic or systematic process used in psychology for reversing pessimism. The term false hope refers to a hope based entirely around a fantasy or an extremely unlikely outcome.
When I talk about being successful it's whatever you deem it to be, or maybe, you just want to be OK and feel nice about life. What is important is that you have to understand that you're the one that has to lead your thought process and not let your thought process drag you around.
Having hope is like taking your next breath, breathing. Everyone needs it. It gives you the strength and power to live your life. Some people overflow with Hope and others are too busy drowning in their reality to be able to touch it, no less embrace it. The good news? Everyone possesses a seed of hope -- even if you don't realize it!
When the world says, "Give up," Hope whispers, "Try it one more time."
~Author Unknown
If you feel you know how to get what you want out of life, and you have that desire to make that happen, then you have Hope.
If you're not seeing that good things could happen to you, feel like tomorrow will not be a better day and your reality has got you feeling that your situation is permanent and there is no way out here are a few pieces of advice to help you move forward:
1- If you're not seeing anything and the feeling of permanence is overpowering you then it's time to act quickly. Seeking out professional help would be the safe thing to do as soon as you can. Feeling Hopeless is a dangerous sign that something is very wrong and having a professional help you work it out will be the best thing you ever did for yourself. Better to be safe . . . .
I know . . . . . . it happened to me about 18 years ago. It works.
2- As I said earlier, we all possess a seed of Hope. How do we nurture it and have it bloom? The first and foremost truth that you must always remember:
YOUR SITUATION IS NOT, I REPEAT NOT, PERMANENT!!! EVERY SITUATION IS TEMPORARY.
That in itself is enough of a reason to have Hope.
Change is coming. When change comes it gives you the chance to adjust your situation. Every day you get the chance to start all over again. Moving forward and adjusting your circumstances little by little will bring more change. Keep taking action until you break through the darkness. You will be ok and there is plenty of Hope to go around.
3- Your Success Support Community . . . . Having one or many people (pets included) in your life is essential to nurture Hope in your life. It could be anyone but it has to be a person or persons that are good people and really get you and get it. It's time to look around at the people who are in your life. Who makes you feel good? Who could you rely on to remind you that "the sun will come out tomorrow"? Who has their feet on the ground and who can you trust to have your back? It could be family, teacher, friends, lovers, professionals, anybody that really cares about you.
4-Reading and having virtual friends,dead or alive, is another way to nurture Hope. Feeling Good by David Burns and Think and Grow rich by Napoleon Hill are at the top of my list for books that remind me that anything's possible. They remind me that Hope is alive and well and it's mine for the taking. Biographies on past or present people are another great source. Articles on the internet can become part of your own virtual library or extended posse and you could even reach out to the authors and talk about Hope. Google "Hope" .......and go to the article directories to find great advice on Hope.
"Consult not your fears but your hopes and dreams. Think not about your frustrations, but about your unfulfilled potential. Concern yourself not with what you tried and failed in, but with what is still possible for you to do." Pope John XXIII
Best of luck.....You're going to be fine!
Best wishes now and forever
Barry
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Monday, April 12, 2010
CHANGE IS COMING . . .Be prepared or LEARNING HOW TO PLAY WITH OTHERS
By Barry Sarner
Afraid to go for it? Think your dream is way over your head? You think you don't have the resources to be successful? Think you can't make a difference in the world? Think again!
The first three essential ingredients needed to take along on your quest for success in your professional or personal life is : SUPPORT, SUPPORT and more SUPPORT.
You need one or more supporters who will be there for you when you get to that critical point where the pain exceeds the passion and you just can't move forward.You need people who care about you and people who are willing to take the time to understand you and the way you're wired.
Opportunity does not make house calls. You need to get out and meet people. Join network groups. Volunteer. Risk yourself a little bit.Go out and meet people and see what you can do for them.
"Giving people a little more than they expect is a good way to get back more than you'd expect." -- Robert Half
If you're out and about and showing people that you're genuine and that you care about them they'll share their knowledge, different perspectives, degrees of maturity, diverse experiences and wisdom with you.
Here is a list of what you need for support:
1-You need people around you who will tell you like it is.
You must toughen up and be able to deal with their reality not yours. What is "real" to you is affected by your habits and thoughts. Right now you need honesty and a new perspective.
Listen to them...don't debate them...and then ask questions.
why do you feel that way? How can I change my situation? How would you do it? Do you know where I can get help and support? These are a few questions to ask.These questions will help you understand where that person is coming from and if his/her opinions are really useful or not. If you have a specific topic contact me and we could work on more questions.
2-You need people around you with more experience than you have.
I have over 30 years of big time experience building offline businesses and only a few months on the internet. My coach and mentor for the internet is a very successful, well known internet Entrepreneur by the name of Trent Brownrigg. He's 29 years old and I'm 58. Don't get stuck on someone’s age. More experience than you have is more experience than you have.
3-You need people around you who are smarter than you.
You want to get bigger and better? This is the only way.
4-You need people who are "creative".
I don't mean Artists or Writers . . .You want people with great imaginations, street smarts and a lot of moxie.People who will grab you by the scruff of the neck and say "C'mon let's do it" or "Hey you could do this, this and this"
5-You need people who have "BEEN THERE and DONE THAT.
Overall . . .You need people who "get it"
Finding the right people will take time. Next month is coming whether you do something or not. So why not start now and help yourself. Who knows? By next month you could be on your way to building a powerful success support network or You may get lucky and find one or two people who have all of the above.
To Expedite .....Where do you get to meet and develop relationships with some of these special people as soon as possible?
The Good News? One of my best friends and a huge supporter is NAPOLEAN HILL.... Yup, That's right. He's Dead.
Your support, encouragement, and motivation does not all have to come from a Live Person.
Of course, there is nothing better than the real thing but Books, Articles,forums, Blogs and Websites could be and should be a huge source of nourishment.
You can make friends with and have access to some of the brightest minds and the most successful people the world has ever known.
They should always be part of your mastermind group no matter how many live supporters you have.
To find great works: "Google" should be high on your list of tools that you use to develop your round table.....Play with words. For example: success support, mastermind groups, hope, persistence, books on success ETC. ETC. ETC. Spend a day in Barnes and Noble. Check out ezinearticles.com and other article sites.
Get moving today. Change is coming no matter what you do. One of the most important tools to have in working with and understanding the CHANGES that are coming your way is a success support network.
Afraid to go for it? Think your dream is way over your head? You think you don't have the resources to be successful? Think you can't make a difference in the world? Think again!
The first three essential ingredients needed to take along on your quest for success in your professional or personal life is : SUPPORT, SUPPORT and more SUPPORT.
You need one or more supporters who will be there for you when you get to that critical point where the pain exceeds the passion and you just can't move forward.You need people who care about you and people who are willing to take the time to understand you and the way you're wired.
Opportunity does not make house calls. You need to get out and meet people. Join network groups. Volunteer. Risk yourself a little bit.Go out and meet people and see what you can do for them.
"Giving people a little more than they expect is a good way to get back more than you'd expect." -- Robert Half
If you're out and about and showing people that you're genuine and that you care about them they'll share their knowledge, different perspectives, degrees of maturity, diverse experiences and wisdom with you.
Here is a list of what you need for support:
1-You need people around you who will tell you like it is.
You must toughen up and be able to deal with their reality not yours. What is "real" to you is affected by your habits and thoughts. Right now you need honesty and a new perspective.
Listen to them...don't debate them...and then ask questions.
why do you feel that way? How can I change my situation? How would you do it? Do you know where I can get help and support? These are a few questions to ask.These questions will help you understand where that person is coming from and if his/her opinions are really useful or not. If you have a specific topic contact me and we could work on more questions.
2-You need people around you with more experience than you have.
I have over 30 years of big time experience building offline businesses and only a few months on the internet. My coach and mentor for the internet is a very successful, well known internet Entrepreneur by the name of Trent Brownrigg. He's 29 years old and I'm 58. Don't get stuck on someone’s age. More experience than you have is more experience than you have.
3-You need people around you who are smarter than you.
You want to get bigger and better? This is the only way.
4-You need people who are "creative".
I don't mean Artists or Writers . . .You want people with great imaginations, street smarts and a lot of moxie.People who will grab you by the scruff of the neck and say "C'mon let's do it" or "Hey you could do this, this and this"
5-You need people who have "BEEN THERE and DONE THAT.
Overall . . .You need people who "get it"
Finding the right people will take time. Next month is coming whether you do something or not. So why not start now and help yourself. Who knows? By next month you could be on your way to building a powerful success support network or You may get lucky and find one or two people who have all of the above.
To Expedite .....Where do you get to meet and develop relationships with some of these special people as soon as possible?
The Good News? One of my best friends and a huge supporter is NAPOLEAN HILL.... Yup, That's right. He's Dead.
Your support, encouragement, and motivation does not all have to come from a Live Person.
Of course, there is nothing better than the real thing but Books, Articles,forums, Blogs and Websites could be and should be a huge source of nourishment.
You can make friends with and have access to some of the brightest minds and the most successful people the world has ever known.
They should always be part of your mastermind group no matter how many live supporters you have.
To find great works: "Google" should be high on your list of tools that you use to develop your round table.....Play with words. For example: success support, mastermind groups, hope, persistence, books on success ETC. ETC. ETC. Spend a day in Barnes and Noble. Check out ezinearticles.com and other article sites.
Get moving today. Change is coming no matter what you do. One of the most important tools to have in working with and understanding the CHANGES that are coming your way is a success support network.
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