CHANGE IS GOOD . . . . FOR THE NEW YEAR

BY DR. SHARON M. MELNICK

There is one "master" resolution. Without it all your other resolutions cannot be carried out. The one ability you wantto resolve to strengthen is Self Trust.

Self-trust is relying upon your inner resources (i.e.emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual) to achievedesired success and fulfillment. It enables you to staysteady and expand what you CAN control in this fast-changingworld, rather than try in futility to change marketconditions or other people.

Self trust is about believing in yourself , i.e., whetheryour efforts are worthwhile and will help you progresstowards the happiness and results you seek.

Self trust is about your ability to manage yourself, sothat when it comes time to do the behavior you've said ishealthy or constructive for you, you can get yourself to doit.

Self trust is about viewing yourself as worth treatingwell, i.e., that you are deserving of having the resultsyou are pursuing. This comes from seeing yourself as otherssee you, not through filters of self judgment.

You judge yourself because you think you will only beloveable to others or secure in your career if you live upto an ideal of perfection. Therefore you always compareyourself to this ideal, setting yourself up to fall shortand beat yourself up.

Everyone, no matter who you are, has felt crunched in thepast year or so. Some of us are feeling overwhelmed by thestresses, others of us are feeling resilient, knowing theywill land on their feet no matter what. Resilient peopleare energized and taking action everyday to createopportunities and keep their relationships strong.

Self trust is a key factor that determines how you will navigate through turbulent times.

How do you rate yourself on a 1-10 scale of Self Trust?What is your Resolution for how Self Trusting you want tobe in 2010 and the upcoming decade?

Self trust is a learned skill. Go to my blogwww.sharonmelnick.com/site/resolution for some questions toaid your yearly review and an exercise to build selftrust.

Leave me your comments about this blog post and let me know how you build self trust.--Dr. Sharon M. Melnick(O) 212.842.4638sharon@sharonmelnick.com Follow me on Twitter: DrSharonMelnick