BY DR. SHARON M. MELNICK
There is one "master" resolution. Without it all your other
resolutions cannot be carried out. The one ability you want
to resolve to strengthen is Self Trust.
Self-trust is relying upon your inner resources (i.e.
emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual) to achieve
desired success and fulfillment. It enables you to stay
steady and expand what you CAN control in this fast-changing
world, rather than try in futility to change market
conditions or other people.
Self trust is about believing in yourself , i.e., whether
your efforts are worthwhile and will help you progress
towards the happiness and results you seek.
Self trust is about your ability to manage yourself, so
that when it comes time to do the behavior you've said is
healthy or constructive for you, you can get yourself to do
it.
Self trust is about viewing yourself as worth treating
well, i.e., that you are deserving of having the results
you are pursuing. This comes from seeing yourself as others
see you, not through filters of self judgment.
You judge yourself because you think you will only be
loveable to others or secure in your career if you live up
to an ideal of perfection. Therefore you always compare
yourself to this ideal, setting yourself up to fall short
and beat yourself up.
Everyone, no matter who you are, has felt crunched in the
past year or so. Some of us are feeling overwhelmed by the
stresses, others of us are feeling resilient, knowing they
will land on their feet no matter what. Resilient people
are energized and taking action everyday to create
opportunities and keep their relationships strong. Self
trust is a key factor that determines how you will navigate
through turbulent times.
How do you rate yourself on a 1-10 scale of Self Trust?
What is your Resolution for how Self Trusting you want to
be in 2010 and the upcoming decade?
Self trust is a learned skill. Go to my blog
www.sharonmelnick.com/site/resolution for some questions to
aid your yearly review and an exercise to build self
trust.
Leave me your comments about this blog post and let me
know how you build self trust.
--
Dr. Sharon M. Melnick
(O) 212.842.4638
sharon@sharonmelnick.com
Follow me on Twitter: DrSharonMelnick
Thursday, December 31, 2009
Saturday, December 26, 2009
CHANGE IS GOOD . . . .YOU CAN'T DO IT ALONE
Hi All,
FIRST AND MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL: I would like to wish everyone a very Happy Chanukah, A Very Merry Christmas and A Wonderful, Happy, Healthy, Prosperous New Year . . . . . .
The three essential major ingredients in your quest for success ??? SUPPORT. SUPPORT. SUPPORT.
You need one or more supporters who will be there for you when you get to that critical point where the pain exceeds the passion and you just can't move forward.
You need a good accountant and a good lawyer. Liking them is very important.
Opportunity does not make house calls. You need to get out and meet people. Join network groups. Volunteer. Make sure your goal is just to meet great people.
You need people around you who will tell you like it is .
You need people around you with more experience than you have.
You need people around you who are smarter than you.
You need people who are creative.
You need people who have "BEEN THERE DONE THAT.
The Challenge . . . . .Where do you get to meet and develop relationships with some of these special people as soon as possible?
The Good News? One of my best friends and a huge supporter is NAPOLEAN HILL. . . . Yup, That's right. He's Dead.
Your support, encouragement, and motivation does not have to come from a Live Person .
Of course, there is nothing better than the real thing but Books, Articles, Blogs and Websites could be and should be a huge source of nourishment.
You can make friends with and have access to some of the brightest minds and the most successful people the world has ever known.
They should always be part of your mastermind group no matter how many live supporters you have.
To find great works: "Google" should be high on your list of tools that you use to develp your round table . . . . .Play with words. For example: success support, mastermind groups, hope, persistence, books on success ETC. ETC. ETC. Spend a day in Barnes and Noble.
Also Just want to share . . . . The Three links below are a great source of inspiration and motivation for your support network. I just found Evan and his team.
www.evancarmichael.com
www.evancarmichael.com/Forums
www.ezinearticles.com/?expert=Evan_Carmichael
Good luck on your journey.
Email me at barry@cbtpusa.com if you need help.
Regards
Barry
FIRST AND MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL: I would like to wish everyone a very Happy Chanukah, A Very Merry Christmas and A Wonderful, Happy, Healthy, Prosperous New Year . . . . . .
The three essential major ingredients in your quest for success ??? SUPPORT. SUPPORT. SUPPORT.
You need one or more supporters who will be there for you when you get to that critical point where the pain exceeds the passion and you just can't move forward.
You need a good accountant and a good lawyer. Liking them is very important.
Opportunity does not make house calls. You need to get out and meet people. Join network groups. Volunteer. Make sure your goal is just to meet great people.
You need people around you who will tell you like it is .
You need people around you with more experience than you have.
You need people around you who are smarter than you.
You need people who are creative.
You need people who have "BEEN THERE DONE THAT.
The Challenge . . . . .Where do you get to meet and develop relationships with some of these special people as soon as possible?
The Good News? One of my best friends and a huge supporter is NAPOLEAN HILL. . . . Yup, That's right. He's Dead.
Your support, encouragement, and motivation does not have to come from a Live Person .
Of course, there is nothing better than the real thing but Books, Articles, Blogs and Websites could be and should be a huge source of nourishment.
You can make friends with and have access to some of the brightest minds and the most successful people the world has ever known.
They should always be part of your mastermind group no matter how many live supporters you have.
To find great works: "Google" should be high on your list of tools that you use to develp your round table . . . . .Play with words. For example: success support, mastermind groups, hope, persistence, books on success ETC. ETC. ETC. Spend a day in Barnes and Noble.
Also Just want to share . . . . The Three links below are a great source of inspiration and motivation for your support network. I just found Evan and his team.
www.evancarmichael.com
www.evancarmichael.com/Forums
www.ezinearticles.com/?expert=Evan_Carmichael
Good luck on your journey.
Email me at barry@cbtpusa.com if you need help.
Regards
Barry
CHANGE IS GOOD . . . .YOU GOTTA HAVE HOPE
Success - What's Hope Got to Do With It?
By Walter jacobson
If we are hopeless, we have decided there are no solutions, no resolutions, no possibilities, there is only one absolutely certain outcome and nothing else, and it's not a good one, case closed.
That negative, fatalistic attitude shuts down the subconscious mind's factory of reality-altering possibilities. There is just no way our subconscious mind will construct solutions of any kind, or even the seeds of solutions, if we have convinced it with hopelessness that there is no point in going down that road.
However, if we are hopeful, despite how terribly bleak our options might seem to be, it means we have left open the possibility of some form of rescue, some form of circumstance that can't now be anticipated but could possibly happen, that could solve the problem, enable us to catch our breath, whatever the situation might be.
It is this attitude that gives our subconscious mind permission to entertain all possibilities, to "keep an open mind." As a consequence, we become more aware of intuitive processes.
Putting it another way: Hope gives the mind permission to let go of fear, limitations, boundaries and logic, to think outside of the box so that it can tap into the collective unconscious, a fountain of ideas, and be receptive to them, despite how impractical they might at first glance appear.
Hope can set us on the right path, but it's up to us to put one foot in front of the other. Hope can inspire infinite possibilities, different roads to take that might never have occurred to us had we resigned ourselves to hopelessness and failure, but it is up to us to stay calm and pay close attention so that we can take ourselves down the best and brightest road possible.
To conclude: Hope isn't foolish, unrealistic or impractical. It's not magical thinking. On the contrary, hope is inspiring, catalyzing, activating, motivating, and generating. Hope is a powerful creative, transformative force, particularly when we free our mind of fear, that has the capacity to help us manifest life-altering physical solutions to seemingly insolvable problems.
Hope makes things happen. Keep hope alive. Keep the dream alive.
Walter E Jacobson, MD
Psychiatrist, Speaker & Author
http://walterjacobsonmd.wordpress.com
Spiritual Solutions & Cognitive Tools for Well-Being & Material Success
Check out my blog at the above website for practical ways to achieve happiness and success.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Walter_Jacobson
By Walter jacobson
If we are hopeless, we have decided there are no solutions, no resolutions, no possibilities, there is only one absolutely certain outcome and nothing else, and it's not a good one, case closed.
That negative, fatalistic attitude shuts down the subconscious mind's factory of reality-altering possibilities. There is just no way our subconscious mind will construct solutions of any kind, or even the seeds of solutions, if we have convinced it with hopelessness that there is no point in going down that road.
However, if we are hopeful, despite how terribly bleak our options might seem to be, it means we have left open the possibility of some form of rescue, some form of circumstance that can't now be anticipated but could possibly happen, that could solve the problem, enable us to catch our breath, whatever the situation might be.
It is this attitude that gives our subconscious mind permission to entertain all possibilities, to "keep an open mind." As a consequence, we become more aware of intuitive processes.
Putting it another way: Hope gives the mind permission to let go of fear, limitations, boundaries and logic, to think outside of the box so that it can tap into the collective unconscious, a fountain of ideas, and be receptive to them, despite how impractical they might at first glance appear.
Hope can set us on the right path, but it's up to us to put one foot in front of the other. Hope can inspire infinite possibilities, different roads to take that might never have occurred to us had we resigned ourselves to hopelessness and failure, but it is up to us to stay calm and pay close attention so that we can take ourselves down the best and brightest road possible.
To conclude: Hope isn't foolish, unrealistic or impractical. It's not magical thinking. On the contrary, hope is inspiring, catalyzing, activating, motivating, and generating. Hope is a powerful creative, transformative force, particularly when we free our mind of fear, that has the capacity to help us manifest life-altering physical solutions to seemingly insolvable problems.
Hope makes things happen. Keep hope alive. Keep the dream alive.
Walter E Jacobson, MD
Psychiatrist, Speaker & Author
http://walterjacobsonmd.wordpress.com
Spiritual Solutions & Cognitive Tools for Well-Being & Material Success
Check out my blog at the above website for practical ways to achieve happiness and success.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Walter_Jacobson
Friday, December 11, 2009
CHANGE IS GOOD . . . . CHECK THIS OUT
CHECK THIS OUT . . . IT'S SAFE . . . IT'S ON YOUTUBE
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xfq_A8nXMsQ
REGARDS
BARRY
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xfq_A8nXMsQ
REGARDS
BARRY
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